(Closed) If you were paid to be a SAHM sayings and why I hate them.

posted 9 years ago in Parenting
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@lefeymw:  But those are all luxuries…Nobody is saying SAHM’s are lazy or anything, she’s just pointing out how illogical those posts are because working mothers have to work and maintain a household, which is essentially more work.

I don’t like those posts, either.  They make no sense.  I get that it’s hard work and all, but I think being a working parent would be more difficult because there isn’t just a child-rearing/household maintenance obligation.

Post # 18
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Honey bee

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@Miss Pinup: I don’t think its about being paid, but for people to remember its a job to. The cost is related to how much it would cost people to outsource what they do.

I think it is easy to forget that both working moms and SAHMs work hard. Some choose what they want to do (boths dies) and some have no choice. Its about appreciation more than the $ value. 

I also think its usually more directed towards husbands. I think it was Oprah that had a few couples switch spots and the husbands were exhausted and shocked after one day of being a Stay-At-Home Mom. They didnt realize how much she did because it was just always done. Laundry away, dinner on the table, everything clean, lunches made, homework done, bills paid etc…

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@Miss Tattoo: LOL!!!!  I can’t stop giggling at that…

Post # 21
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

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@Miss Tattoo: I don’t think anyone is saying that you personally think SAHMs are lazy (and it doesn’t appear that your friends’ posts were directed towards you).  But many people DO think that SAHMs are lazy or that they are somehow below working mothers because they are “just” moms.  It is that mentality that the statements your friends are posting are trying to counteract.

I don’t think it has anything to do with being stuck up.  SAHMs just want to be respected for the hard work they put in each day.  Many, many people in this country don’t offer them any kind of respect.

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m a Stay-At-Home Mom and I love it. And I do get paid, with kisses, and hugs, and smiles, and a sense of adventure that I lost a long time ago. I also live a pretty good life with my fiance, so I am not complaining. However, I kinda get the whole facebook post thing, although I am yet to see it. I think everyones entitled to say what they think they are good at and why they should get appreciation for it, why not?

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Those posts would annoy me too . . . the worst was when I had a friend who was a “SAHM” even though she only had custody 60% of the time and still sent her kid to day care full time.  

Post # 24
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Hrmm…if you ask me…anyone who needs to justify what they are doing in life as being worthwhile is not doing anything too worthwhile. Being a Stay-At-Home Mom can be a worthwhile thing, but if you are talking about how you are not getting enough recognition for doing it, chances are you’re not doing anything noteworthy as a Stay-At-Home Mom

Post # 25
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i dont get why anyone needs to be so outspoken about their self worth. i get it, you stay home and raise little people, kudos to you because i know i couldnt do it but in the meantime i go to the office and makes decisions that affect hundreds of employees and their families and yet i dont feel the need for a parade to acknowledge my accomplishments

 

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If we were all compensated based 100% off of how hard we worked the structure of our society would be completely different. However, this is the real world and it doesn’t work that way…and if you’re posting about it on Facebook to me you’re just fishing for compliments.

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Miss Tattoo: So I posted this on another thread earlier today (and if you saw–I didn’t mean to offend), but the stats that I was hearing the other day actually said mothers who work would actually bring in $80,000 more than a Stay-At-Home Mom if they were to get paid for everything they do

I think stay at home moms get their feelings hurt when they go unappreciated for all the shit they do. A lot of times they get crap for “well you haven’t worked all day” from their SO’s…but I do have friends who are SAHM’s who post stuff like that on facebook all the time and I find it obnoxious too.

Post # 29
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I usually ignore all people who re-post stuff.  It’s dumb and I find it annoying.  One of the many reasons why I disabled my facebook.

Post # 30
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Most mothers on facebook annoy me. They should have some sort of post limit so we don’t have to hear about every time their baby poops. 

But for the Stay-At-Home Mom mom thing–it’s kind of a privilege to be a Stay-At-Home Mom. I once worked with a girl who had a newborn and she would cry because she was missing out on her baby’s infancy. I get that SAHM’s aren’t super appreciated in society, but surely the benefits should outweigh that if that’s your type of thing. I just don’t like that people walk around saying how hard their life is as a Stay-At-Home Mom when so many people would do anything to be able to be with their kids all day :(.

Post # 31
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I personally don’t like these types of things either… I do NOT think anyone should be paid to take care of their own children. but I hate it even more when people do act like being a Stay-At-Home Mom ISN’T work of sorts. And, yes I know that isn’t what you are saying but as a general rule I find that most people think that way. 

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