(Closed) If you were paid to be a SAHM sayings and why I hate them.

posted 9 years ago in Parenting
Post # 47
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Just pointing out that some of the SAHM’s that I know aren’t SAHM’s by choice but because it would cost more money for them to work then to stay at home – money in increased taxes and in daycare.

I remember saying this to people when I was growing up because they looked down on my Stay-At-Home Mom because she didn’t work.  Yet my mom built our fireplace mantle, put in our hardwood floors, build bookcases, taught me how to bake and cook, and so many other things!  So it ticked me off that people acted like she was inferior to them.

That kind of looking down on SAHM’s is still somewhat prevelant in many people’s thinking which is why those sayings are probably going around.  I totally get what you mean about things going viral.  That’s pretty annoying for anything!

Post # 48
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My two cents on the difference between venting . . . . generally if someone is venting on the Bee it’s because someone has done something or said something to them, and the vent is a reaction to that negativity.  For example if someone made a snide remark about how easy it must be to be a Stay-At-Home Mom.  On facebook, especially in this context where a bunch of people posted it all at once it’s more like random exclamation of how hard you work.  Which is generally considered to be not as sympathetic. 

Post # 49
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

If someone is posting something like that, or feels underappreciated as a stay at home mom, then I don’t think Facebook will help their cause.

Even if I were ever going to be a Stay-At-Home Mom, if my SO didn’t appreciate what I did, then it’s a problem with my SO, not the fact that I’d be a Stay-At-Home Mom.

I work all day, go to the gym on my way home, take care of the dog, cook a fresh meal 6 nights out of the week, do all the meal planning/shopping/cleaning/laundry.  I don’t do it in the hopes that I’ll be appreciated or rewarded.  It all needs to get done and, frankly, I have a far better understanding of what needs to be done to maintain a home. 

SAHM’s provide a valuable role in society, but as with any job, if you’re doing it for recognition or feel worth less because you don’t receive it, then maybe your priorities are screwed.

Post # 50
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@ohheavenlyday: Agreed!

Not to hijack, but the other thing that always gets me too is the “oh, I’m a single mom now! My hubby went away for the weekend.” Uh, no you are NOT. He’s coming home after two days. I did it for years and years. Day in. Day out. And had to deal with my ex-husband who acted like father of the year for showing up every other weekend, but promptly returned if the kid was sick.

Yeah.

Post # 51
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think the saying should go, “MOTHER’s should be paid…etc…”

Post # 52
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

How is a Stay-At-Home Mom posting something like that ANY different than a nurse, doctor, teacher, secretary, mailman, stripper, hooker, etc. posting about how it is ___ appreciation week? I don’t see anybody getting all in a tizzy about that crap. I’m willing to bet most people wouldn’t DARE attack someone touting about their job during xyz appreciation week. You would then be viewed as attacking their education and their career. It is essentially the exact same thing when a Stay-At-Home Mom posts something like this.

Leave it alone. Block the person from your feed. Get over it. 

And, for the record..many of these things could also be said about brides and their comments regarding their weddings being posted on facebook. 

Post # 53
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

As an early childcare center worker I take care of the working parents kids during the day, feed them there breakfast, lunch, and 2 snacks a day, as well as play with them, teach them, put sunscreen on them, give them meds, clean up after them, make sure every time one of those little guys puts something in their mouths I disenfect it and get out a new item to replace the old one. I do this for 8 infants on a normal day unless I’m in a different room with the toddlers or 3’s. The is a legitimate job and do not make more than 20k a year so if a Stay-At-Home Mom thinks they should get paid 100k to watch their own child all day I demand a raise!

Post # 54
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

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@eeh2010: I don’t know any other profession that posts that kind of status.

Post # 55
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

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@helenberrycrunch: I constantly see posts like this about nurses.  Granted, nurses do extremely important and difficult work.  But so do doctors.  I never see doctor appreciation posts.

Post # 56
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Helper bee

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@blu77:  OMG I know.  She’s lucky that her husband contributes that much when he IS home!  I’m the one kicking SO out of the house on my days off.  “Babe, go do something.  I can’t clean/take care of the kids/do laundry when you’re around.  Leave”

Post # 57
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Right now my facebook feed is burning with people who are teachers who, months ago, were posting about how underpaid, underappreciated and overworked they are.  Funny how a few months makes a difference and they are posting things like “great day! Got a pedicure and headed to the pool!”

I’ve learned that posting about the dislike of your job, your personal drama, or your kids pooping habbits aren’t appreciated.  Dog’s pooping habbits are ok though!

Post # 58
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I was at walmart today shopping with my son. My son starting acting up, so I took him out of the cart to “help push” ( it’s just something I do with him shopping to keep his fingers off everything, and focused on the task). Anyways, a lady behind me says, ” You’ve got the most important job in the world, and you never even get a coffee break.”

…the first thing I thought of was this thread. And if her facebook is going viral too. So maybe it was coincidence that I just read this yesterday, maybe the facebook post reached out to someone, or maybe she was a Stay-At-Home Mom herself, or was one, because she had no children with her.

Anyways, just thought I’d share!!!!

Post # 60
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

it sounds to me like a counter-defensive move to validate what they do, since people tend to discount SAHMs.

With that said, yes, it’s annoying, but so is being underestimated.

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