(Closed) If you got pregnant, would you want/expect a proposal?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Would you want a proposal?
    Yes : (20 votes)
    22 %
    No : (20 votes)
    22 %
    Maybe - only if the relationship was heading there anyways : (52 votes)
    57 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Getting married because you’re pregnant isn’t a very smart thing to do ever.  If we were at the right stage in our relationship, and already progressing towards marriage when we got pregnant, maybe.  But I stand firm that getting married because of a baby is a dumb move!

    Post # 4
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    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Considering the situation we were in prior to getting engaged (long term, live in), I would absolutely expect a proposal. If he put a baby in me you best believe there would be a wedding in our future.

    Post # 5
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    7587 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Only if it was heading that way.  You have sex with some guy you’ve been dating for a short period of time and he proposes? No stinking way.

    Post # 6
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    3364 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    This thread should get **JUICY**  Innocent

    We were already trying before the proposal was made, and I wasn’t expecting it even then! =) So becoming pregnant would not require a proposal, but that is something we both agreed on beforehand a long time ago too.

    “How do you make an unplanned pregnancy worse? Get married! Congrats to me!”

    This was one of my friends FB Status message when she announced her parents were “pushing” her to get married because of her “out of wedlock pregnancy”!

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    @Gingersnap: knowing us ladies and how differing our views are, im sure it will be! But I dont mean it in a negative way! Sorry if I came across that way! I love differing opinions, makes the world go round! xo

    Post # 9
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    921 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I got preggo right when Fiance and I started dating (we’ve known each other most of our lives though) and I wouldn’t have wanted him to purpose then. One reason was I just wouldn’t want people to assume that we were getting married because we felt like we had to.. .just asked Fiance and he said sort of the same thing.. he wouldn’t have purposed until he felt like he was ready. ( We ended up losing the baby at four months so had we rushed into marriage and it ended up not working out … well…. )

    Post # 10
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    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @CupCakeMeg: “How do you make an unplanned pregnancy worse? Get married! Congrats to me!”

    Post # 11
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    1253 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I have two children out of wedlock, I was 19 when I discovered I was pregnant. Me and my Boyfriend or Best Friend were very young and very immature. I made it perfectly clear that I didn’t want him to ever propose to me because I was pregnant. We were not together the whole time I was pregnant, and after my son was born we decided to give it another shot. Now I’m 25, and planning our wedding for this fall. Our daughter was born in 2009.

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    My friend got pregnant right after HS, demanded a proposal, got one, and then they promptly broke it off after the kid was born. They’re still dating… just no longer engaged.

    Post # 13
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    5655 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I definitely wouldn’t… and I wouldn’t even move up an already established wedding date if pregnancy occured.

    It just doesn’t end well usually… especially b/c from a mans standpoint and sympathizing for him… WHO wants to be pressured into something when you’re already dealing with an “HOW am I going to be able to provide whats needed, emotionally, financially, etc”

    They usually will go along but then their misery and lack of being able to appropriately work out what’s going on internally overtakes them and they either shut down, check out, or leave.

    Not good for anyone =/

    Post # 14
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I wouldnt expect a ring because of a pregnancy.

    I got pregnant 2 months after we started dating so we didnt know each other very well but as the relationship advanced we discussed it and decided forever fit with us. Getting married because you have a baby is for all the wrong reasons. We arent getting married because we had a baby, we are getting married because we couldnt imagine our lives without each other. Baby or no baby. If I didnt get pregnant we probably wouldnt have stayed together to be honest. We are very different people but with a lot of work we realized we were made for each other. To each their own though. I have heard of plenty of instances where the couple had gotten married because of a baby and they have gone on to have a successful relationship but then I had heard the opposite too.

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I don’t think so just because of that. If we weren’t in a good relationship then there is no point i my mind why I would want him to propose to me simply because he feels he MUST. If it was headed there already, maybe I would. But if I was just causally dating him, or we only had been for a while, etc, I wouldn’t at all. Not to mention that a pregnancy + a wedding = too many things going on at once. Sometimes the pressures of all those things together can be too much. 

    Post # 16
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I wouldn’t just because I was pregnant. I wouldn’t want to get engaged JUST because I was getting married. However, if we were already headed that way, I’d want to wait a bit.

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