If you were proposed to without a ring, would you be ok with it?

posted 3 months ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

I was proposed to both times no rings, the ring came later… 

My fh reproposed with the ring. 

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

kayaa :  i wouldn’t be disappointed because my partner asked me to marry him… I think that excitement would outweigh disappointment of it happening without a ring. I would have been really excited and if I did want a ring, I would have asked about ordering one together

I proposed to my now husband and we ordered a ring that I had been eyeing after he said yes

This would also depend on if the proposal was sincere and heartfelt. We hear stories about proposals that are done to just stop the conversations about marriage and engagement for a while, but those would hurt even if there was a ring involved 

Post # 4
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Honey bee

My ex proposed without a ring (spontaneously, had no plans to ever get one – the ring or lack thereof had nothing to do with the end of the relationship).  My good friend proposed without a ring (and never got one) and they’ve been married a few years now just had baby #2.

I can buy myself jewelry.  I can’t buy myself a partner who wants to build a life with me.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I was proposed to without a ring.  It’s a long story, but the short of it is there was a deployment, short timely for new duty station, and shipping delay on my ring.  At the time, I always wore my great grandma’s ring on my right hand and when we got to the spot where Darling Husband proposed, he actually said “Hey, can I see your ring real quick?” LOL  Gee, I wonder why. 

So, to wrap it up, no, I was not disappointed in the slightest.  The only part I didn’t like is the day he left (and I wouldn’t see him again for another 9-10 months) was the day my ring finally showed up.  Wasn’t exactly the moment I envisioned of putting my engagement ring on, but it is what it is.  Was kind of out of our control.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey

My husband proposed without a ring, I accepted. 😀 I sent him rings I liked and after 3 months he proposed with the ring that time. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee

Yes I would be ok with it because I’d just gotten engaged! I think the excitement of that would outweigh any other emotion, although afterwards I might be slightly disappointed. If it is something she wants to talk about then she should bring it up and be honest about how she feels but the main focus is the engagement I’m sure.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I would still accept the proposal, still be excited, but it would feel weird — he’s already said he wants to give me a ring, so it would be unexpected. I would also prepare myself for the judgy eyes and questions from other people which would make it feel more awkward to share the news.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I was proposed to without a ring as per my request. I wanted to pick my own ring as I love jewellery and had very clear ideas of what I wanted. 

We went to get the ring together 2 weeks later (would have been sooner but I had a wisdom tooth removal booked) and have been married 8 years now.

 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2020

Honestly yea I would be disappointed but each couple is a world and as long as they are on the same page it’s not a big deal kayaa :  

Post # 11
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Busy bee

Absolutely.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

I’d be totally ok with this! What’s important is the life decision, not the ring! I’d just mention after that maybe we could go to the jeweller and pick something out together.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

Yes of course, the ring is an added extra, the main thing is the fact the love of your life is asking you to marry him.. 

Post # 14
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Worker bee

I don’t think so? I think if the proposal was heartfelt and meaningful I wouldn’t care. My FH proposed with a silicone ring, because he knew I wanted to be involved in picking my ring. His proposal was perfect, so it didn’t even feel like a placeholder. 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

Dh proposed to me without a ring. We started the process of looking for a ring after he asked. If I were her, I’d just assume a ring was the next step and mention it to him. While I absolutely considered myself engaged after he asked, I did not tell others until we had a ring. I don’t think that’s necessary, especially if people don’t intend to buy a ring, but it is what worked for us.

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