Post # 1
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Helper bee
If you had to pick, would you go with:
Dress A: Your favorite for the dress itself
Dress B: Your favorite for the way it fits into your vision of the event as a whole.
Does that question make sense? Dress A is gorgeous, but maybe a little more formal than what I want. And picking it might have ramifications for the bridesmaids maybe needing to be a little more formal than I want also, and I don’t know if it’d quite go with the color scheme and flowers I had in mind…
Dress B is also great, maybe a little less great than dress A, but I feel like the whole look/event falls into place around it in a way I really love.
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
Dress A. Its my day, its the one day where I can wear the fanciest prettiest most amazing dress ever. And I am going to do so. I want to look back at my pictures and love what I’m in, and how I look and how I feel.
But that being said, In my opinion, I don’t feel that weddings are subject to the same dress codes as other events. When its a wedding the bride could show up in whatever the hell she wants with no discrimination. It doesn’t need to match what everyone else has going on.
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
Dress A, hands down. I’d go with my favorite dress and not worry if it fits “the vision”. A bride is never overdressed in my opinion.
Post # 4
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Helper bee
I would pick dress A because it is ‘the one’. Screw being ‘overly dressed up’, I’m the bride. I would dress the bridesmaids and everyone else the same way I had envisioned, too.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
Ok, now let’s add another ingredient to the mix:
Dress A is stretching the budget.
Dress B has a great price.
Post # 7
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Helper bee
And I’ll also add then when I say the event falls into place around Dress B, I don’t just mean in a practical way. I mean like…have you watched Gilmore Girls? You know when Lorelai sees a dress and then gets her wedding planning done in a day, because from the dress came the church and the flowers and everything else? It’s like that.
Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
I was totally in a position like this when I was dress shopping. I stretched the budget and went with the dress I wanted, the designer that I loved, plus all the extra to make it perfect.
Post # 9
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Helper bee
Tough call.
I assume you’ve tried both dresses on. Which is more comfortable? Not like, which is more comfortable emotionally, but like, which dress are you going to be physically more comfortable in that day? Is one lighter than the other, easier to walk in, easier to sit in, gives you more space to eat, easier to find undergarments for? Which dress needs fewer alterations?
You can dress down the fancy dress with a less fancy veil, shoes, etc. I wouldn’t worry about that.
Post # 10
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Blushing bee
It’s a tough question – I seems like you really like both of them. I almost want to go against all and say go with dress B, as long as you love it also! I don’t watch Gilmore girls so I’ve never seen the episode, but the way You described dress B it sounds like it goes with the whole flow of your dream wedding. Plus staying in budget is always nice!
Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
favorite dress! who cares how it fits into some vision, i wanna rock the dress i love that looks best on me!
Post # 12
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Helper bee
riley23: Dress B is more comfortable. Dress A isn’t
terribly uncomfortable though.
Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
Dress A! Then plan your vision around it 🙂 That’s what I ended up doing. I found the perfect, couture, unique, bohemian amazing gown of my dreams and I ended up changing the entire theme and location of the wedding. Now everything is more meaningful and it’s all falling into place!
Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
So dress B is more comfy, more affordable and makes other decisions easier? That would be my pick. But it all depends on if you will be happy wearing Dress B.
Post # 15
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Busy bee
Dress B. I’m a practical kind of girl.