Post # 1
Do people forget that pregnant women are still women. Noone wants to here how “huge” they are or how much they “blew up” constantly.
Right now it seems that everyone I know or Darling Husband knows is pregnant. And I’m bigger than those even those who are ahead of me. Darling Husband is so excited everyday to tell me how huge I am or how big my belly is. Yesterday he saw and old co-worker and she’s pregnant and he called me right away to not only tell me that she’s pregnant but that she’s due in 3 weeks and I’m bigger than her! He kept saying this like it’s a thing to be so proud of.
At work people used to tell me I had a cute top of they liked my hair, now the first thing I hear every morning is that I’m huge! Then they proceed to tell me about someone else they know who is due before me and I’m still bigger. I even had old ladies tell me at the doctors office yesterday tell me about their grandaughters who are due this summer and they could have sworn that I was due this summer as well.
And everyone swore she was a boy because of how big I got so quickly and they just kept telling me how big my baby was going to be, and now that it’s a girl I automatically hear stories about someone who got big by eating something like ice cream sundays every night. Why can’t my baby still be big just because she’s a girl?! It doesn’t mean she’s going to be fat her entire life just because she is on track to be around 9 pounds at birth.
And I have gained 20 pounds and am 18w 5d but 95% of it is in my belly and the other is in my boobs. I started at a healthy weight, walk everyday, and eat pretty healthy. I can’t control that. It’s not like I eat a chocolate cake every day for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. I won’t be too far off from Jessica Simpson who was made out to be a house when she gained 40 pounds and delivered an almost 10 pound baby.
I will gladly give up my body for my healthy baby girl, but I don’t need to constantly have my self esteem knocked down. I know people don’t mean this in a negative way, but if you wouldn’t tell a woman how huge she is please don’t tell a pregnant woman! She is still a woman!
Vent over… thanks for letting me get that out!
Post # 3
@roxy821: Sorry you are encountering these awful statements. I’m very big for 22 weeks, but luckily nobody has said anything negative to me. (Perhaps behind my back, but not to my face!) I have gotten the belly pats, though, which I can’t stand. Don’t touch the belly!!
Post # 4
@Jenn23- Glad you haven’t heard the negative comment. I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that Darling Husband grew up surrounded by women with eating disorders and saw a lot of sick babies being born because of it, so he is so excited that I’m gaining weight and the baby is healthy. And I tried to talk to him about the negative comments and he thinks people just say it because I was always so small so it’s a shock and cute to see me like this. But I haven’t gotten the belly pats yet from strangers, I am not looking forward to that.
Post # 5
I’m so sorry you are having to deal with that. I’m really dreading that part of pregnancy. I’m only 9 weeks and I already have a gut and the numbers on the scale are going up. I feel so fat already and the bad part is that i’m not pregnant enough to look pregnant…i just look like i’ve gained weight haha.
Post # 6
@totheislnds- Get rid of the scale now! I only know how much I went up because of the doctors this week. I’m sure you look beautiful!
Post # 7
I had a coworker who didn’t even know I was pregnant at 6 months. She just thought I was getting fat. At 6 months my stomach was a balloon. Don;t let it get to you. I had strangers thinking I was 9 months when I was 7. Some baby bellies are bigger than others. Be proud and rock it!
Post # 8
So sorry to hear people telling you that….my mom gained 70 lbs with me and 50 with my sister…of course, she was 100 lbs at the time and lost ALL the weight with no stretch marks.
I worry sometimes that I’ll get that big and I’m petite with a short torso so I’ll be gigantic. My cousin who’s 5′ gained 40 lbs, looked like Jessica Simpson, and had a 10 lb baby naturally…WTF??? Didn’t think that was possible.
To all the bees expecting, I’ve NEVER touched another woman’s pregnant belly….I don’t see the point. I’ve had some ask me to feel the baby kicking and I still feel weirded out by it all.
Post # 9
@roxy821: People are idiots. Don’t let them bring you down! You are doing the most beautiful and wonderful thing that a woman can do. Your body will do what it’s supposed to. I think you look stunning, myself 🙂
Post # 10
Man, if that happens to me, I think that first off, there’d be a conversation with Darling Husband about how I don’t want to hear him telling me I’m huge. Then I’d let co-workers know (as delicately as possible), that I don’t want to hear it from them either.
I’m sure you look beautiful, OP! Don’t let them get you down – you’re doing everything right.
Post # 11
Um yeah my dad said “Did you notice when you started getting really fat, or did it hit you all at once?”
Post # 12
Ehhh.. J. Simpson gained about 70 pounds when she was pregnant (she admitted this in Elle magazine I think? Or in an interview). She really was as big as a house, but you know what? She also admitted that she was slathering pop tarts with butter and eating macaroni and cheese.Plus, she’s short to begin with (I saw her at Nordstrom once, and I think she’s like 5’2- she’s tiny!) so not a lot of room for baby to go anyway. You know you’re being healthy, and I bet you just gain your healthy amount of baby weight by the end.
People are just SO rude sometimes. I don’t know what’s wrong with them, commenting on how “big” they think you are. My poor coworker gets it all the time, she’s pregnant with her 2nd and people keep asking her if she’s “sure” about when her due date is, and “are you sure it’s not twins?” Her doctor says she’s on track to have a big baby too, which runs in her family.
People need to just shut it! 🙂
Post # 13
@Storm007- Thanks, I will rock it. Just need to drown everyone else out.
@Texasbee- That was my mother. She gained a lot of weight, had big babies, and was back to her original size by 6 weeks, so I’m not surprised by how I’m developing just sort of annoyed at people.
@lotam240- Thank you 🙂
@bluewolverine- I try talking to Darling Husband but he doesn’t understand the issue because he is saying it because he is so excited and thinks I’m so cute. Men sometimes just seems so clueless.
@KatyElle- Luckily my dad tells me how beautiful I am every time I see him. My mother got huge with us so I think part of him remembers how emotional she was.
@MissRoot- I read in People that she went from 130-170. So 40 pounds for an almost 10 pound baby doesn’t seem that bad to me, but I guess 70 seems a bit larger. I got the twins comment all the time in the beginning, and then it must be a boy, and now noone can get over that it’s a girl because of course a girl still can’t be a big baby. She is measuring 2 weeks ahead and is perfectly healthy, she’s just going to be a big baby!
Post # 14
I have dealt with this BS too and it SUCKS!!! I wish people would learn some manners. I was a super sknniy size two at my wedding last year and now i am on track to gain 40-60lbs. people tell me the big baby stuff and all of it. It hurts and infuriates me but all i can do is whats bets for me and baby and ignore their stupidity. i know many would kill to be pregnant like i am, no matter the weight, and i know i am pefectly capable of slimming down post baby. many people show at different stages too. i say screw em! unless your doctor cares ignore it. enjoy your baby curves! xxxx
Post # 15
All you need is a healthy baby! Someone at work said to me today, “wow you get bigger and bigger everyday!”
Post # 16
Your Darling Husband is proud because he “planted a good seed” if you know what i mean…
tell your Darling Husband to stop saying that you’re huge, that it’s making you selfconcious.