If your 1st baby was an IVF baby, what did you do for 2nd?

posted 2 weeks ago in TTC
  • poll: Second baby...
    TTC "naturally" and it worked : (5 votes)
    29 %
    TTC "naturally" but needed IVF/FET again : (3 votes)
    18 %
    Jumped right into IVF/FET : (9 votes)
    53 %
    Something else....? : (0 votes)
  • Post # 16
    Member
    3863 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Our issue was MFI. We had a failed fresh transfer (chemical pregnancy) and then a successful FET for our first after 3 years TTC. I got my period back around 10 months pp and had 3 very irregular cycles before finding out I was somehow pregnant at about 14 months pp with baby #2. We had literally had sex once that entire month and weren’t at all trying. It’s nuts. I took the hpt and was about to toss it in the trash as I had a thousand times before (had never gotten a positive test outside of IVF) when it registered there were two extremely dark lines. I have never been more shocked in my life. I felt like the universe was laughing at me. We didn’t use birth control because, duh, why would we need to (I especially thought because our issue was MFI that we wouldn’t be one of those success stories). She is now 5 months old. I still don’t know if I actually need to go on birth control again or if that pregnancy was just some crazy fluke. It seems bonkers to go on BC after intentionally trying to get pregnant for 3 years with zero success. But I’ve given up trying to understand fertility! Oh, 2 ladies I know IRL that did IVF the same time as me also had surprise second babies. 

    Post # 17
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    3863 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    candy08 :  we also weren’t preventing because I figured with MFI it wasn’t something thst would be “fixed” by pregnancy. We somehow got pregnant after having sex only once in the whole month. My Darling Husband had varicoceles that were surgically corrected without success in raising his numbers. We are wondering now if his numbers continued to rise from the procedure long after we stopped monitoring. So it’s possible even with MFI! But we were totally okay with the prospect of an oops baby. Good luck!

    Post # 18
    Member
    939 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    LilliV :  Wow….i guess its hard to believe it could happen with male factor but I see it can happen!!  Im not holding my breath for it to happen for us but we arent preventing so you never know!

    Post # 19
    Member
    939 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    hollyberry4 :  Thanks for sharing your experince! I guess anything is possible!! Im so glad it worked out for you guys!! Like i told pp i am not holding my breath but also not going to prevent. I would be happy with an opps baby as well! 

    Post # 20
    Member
    8620 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    candy08 :  I had the same thoughts as hollyberry4 :  – my pregnancy wasn’t going to fix his testicles! He has a varicocele (opted to skip the surgery once we had frozen embryos) plus partial retrograde ejaculation which they can’t do anything about. I rolled my eyes at so many women who said “you will probably get pregnant naturally after IVF” and then…..oops…. I did lol. After my current pregnancy I’ll be getting an IUD just in case. We were open to an “oops” for kid #2, but we are still on the fence about #3 so we want that to be fully planned if and when we go for it. 

    Post # 21
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    939 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    LilliV :  I dont blame you…..if we ever have kid #2 I may be more scared of an opps baby!! Or when I am older and content with how life is….I may not want a surprise baby at say 40!! Right now im not to worried about it. I guess anything can happen though!

    Post # 22
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    913 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014 - Nazareth Hall

    Personally speaking, if I was in your shoes, I would schedule the FET and try naturally in the meantime. We went through IVF with our daughter who is almost 15 months old. We’re doing nothing to prevent, but are working against some severe MFI so we’ll see if anything happens. Right now, I’d love to have another baby but Darling Husband won’t do another round of IVF (we don’t have any embroys frozen) so “naturally” is our only shot.

     

    If in a few more years, if it still hasn’t happened for us and Darling Husband still isn’t onboard with fertility treatments, I think I’d want to talk about some permanent form of birth control. I’m 10 years older than my youngest sibilng and I don’t want that age gap with my kids personally. We’re young, so I’m not too stressed about the biological clock just yet.

    Post # 24
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    662 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    One of my very good friends did IVF to get pregnant the first time. She had multiple failed transfers, and a couple of miscarriages. She finally got pregnant with twins after they put in three embryos. She then got pregnant with her daughter a couple years later completely accidentally, and just found out she’s pregnant again and she was even on birth control! So it can definitely happen!

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