(Closed) If your dad is not walking you down the aisle? Who is?

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 31
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery

My dad and I do not have a good relationship and there’s no reason to pretend–besides, he doesn’t deserve the honor! And though my Future Father-In-Law, brother, and maternal grandfather have all offered, the most logical person to walk me is doing so: my mom. She’s my best friend and the person who helped me become the person I am. No one else really could do it. We’re both so excited about this moment together!

Post # 32
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

When the time comes, I will walk alone. Even when my dad was in my life, I always knew I did not want to be walked. 

Post # 33
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

My dad and I haven’t had the closest relationship; he was gone in the army when I was young, and when he got home, he didn’t know how to raise girls so he left the handling to my mom and was very hands off. That said, we haven’t always seen eye to eye about life choices, either.

Anyway, we found a good compromise where my dad married us and my mom walked me down the aisle. My dad wanted to be ordained anyway, so it was good a time as any, and that way I didn’t feel like my dad (who wasn’t very involved in my life) was “giving me away.”

Honestly, I wanted to walk down the aisle by myself, but my family wouldn’t hear of it. So my mom was a nice option and I look back on the moment fondly.

Post # 34
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Busy bee

Walked by myself. I didn’t feel right asking anyone else to do it. It was my dad’s role and no one else’s, and he was still with me in spirit on that day.

Post # 35
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2016

My mom is walking me down, dad’ll be in my heart…

Post # 36
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Busy bee

So sad to hearing all the stories of brides who have lost their fathers. My father died several years ago as well. I asked my mom to walk me alone as she has supported me through my education and personal struggles. She agreed to do it. 

Other options were me and my Fiance walking together, but he wasn’t on board for that.  I also considered my eldest brother, but really given how much my mother has supported me, I think she is best suited to walk me alone. 

Post # 37
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Blushing bee

My father passed away last year so he won’t be walking me down the aisle. Mind you, he may not have at all since that isn’t a tradition in my culture and he didn’t walk my sister down the aisle.

I will be walking with my partner. I’m wobbly and need support.

Post # 38
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

My dad passed away 4+ years ago now. After losing him I always imagined his father and step father would both walk me down (maybe awkward for them… But it’s my wedding!) but then I lost my grandfather too.

So now my “step” grandfather will be doing it. He’s done SO much for me, the step part doesn’t really exist other than when trying to explain to people how my family works haha. He was so excited when I asked him to be a part of the big day and I can’t wait!

I do have a younger brother and asked him if he was interested in walking me down instead because I didn’t want to hurt feelings, and he was very understanding.

Post # 39
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

My father passed away in 2014 so I will be asking my big brother 🙂

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I just lost my dad and my step-dad within 6 week of each other a few months ago so sadly they will only be with us on the wedding day in spirit.  My mom is going to walk me down the aisle – as long as she is still with us (they just found a very large tumor in her abdoman so send prayers she comes through surgery fine and cancer free).

It’s gonna be a long 2 years. 

Post # 41
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

My dad passed away long ago, so my 29 year old son is walking me down the aisle.  🙂

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I walked myself, as did my wife. I don’t have a close relationship with my father and all of her family is deceased. I waffled about having my best friend walk me down since he was also officiating and I was nervous, but alone was 100% the right choice for me. 

Post # 43
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Busy bee

A friend of mine whose dad passed away when she was young had her dad’s best friend walk her down the aisle.  She is very close with him (calls him uncle) and he was the one who introduced her parents to each other.  

Post # 44
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’m an only child, dad not invited to the wedding.

I’m either going to walk myself, or have Fiance meet me half way. I love the symbolic gesture of him meeting me half way and us ‘walking into marriage’ together. It sounds much nicer than the traditional property/chattle way imo lol.

Post # 45
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

My mother and step-father walked me down the aisle together. My biological father hasn’t been in the picture for some time, and my step dad has been a father figure to me since I was about 15. It was special and I’m so glad I had both of them do it!

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