Post # 1
So my fiance and I have gone back and forth about whether he’ll wear a wedding band or not, this line of work he can not wearing it all but I still wanted him to have one for when we went on family vacations or out to dinner and such. he felt because he would barely be able to wear one why wear one at all. right now he is out with his boss and actually just called me asking if I would be mad if he bought a ring while he was there and I was at home, he done said I’m not talking about a pinky ring or anything I’m asking if I bought a wedding band would you be upset since you’re not here. then he told me I’ll send you a picture first before making any purchases so my question for you is how would this make you feel?
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX
I would be fine with it. It’s his ring so as long as he likes it and wants to wear it, I’m good.
Post # 3
Totalkaos1983: I may be strange– my FIL doesn’t wear a ring and I had no say in DH’s ring, but I wouldn’t care. It was the same thing with my rings– while DH bought them, I picked them out with no input from him.
However, if it matters to you. Call him and explain that this is onetthing that you were really looking forward to doing together and ask him to wait.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse
He’s the one who has to wear it. So long as he likes it, great…why does it matter if I was there to pick it out?
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
Perfectly fine with me; it’s his ring.
Post # 6
My DH (then FI) bought his ring without me. Didn’t bother me in the least. He likes it and wears it, so no harm done!
Post # 7
Pollywog: actually I dint mind at all, I’m happy he’s changed his mind. I was just curious if others thoughts since I’ve never thought about it before. I’m ecstatic and if he wanted to wear a bolt lol I’d be good!
Post # 8
I’d be ok with it. He’s the one that has to wear it and if he found something he liked and was in the budget we were ok with then definitely he can get it.
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2008 - Toronto, ON
When we were getting married my dad before he retired made jewellery displays for a living, so he had connections to wholesalers. My engagement ring and wedding band is platinum and my DH also wanted platinum. The day my dad and my DH went wedding ring shopping and bought the wedding band, it was a spur of the moment kind of thing and I had to work! I was a little mad at first because I wanted to help pick out the ring but we talked about wedding bands beforehand so the ring was similar to what we both liked!
Post # 10
Totalkaos1983: Honestly, I probably wouldn’t have cared. We spent a total of 2 hours picking out his ring. The only reason it took that long was because we priced shopped (visited a few stores within a 5 mile radius) to make sure we got the best deal. DH bought a white gold band with a subtle design. He picked something he liked within the budget we agreed on beforehand. I liked going with him (and I picked out my band at the same time), but it wasn’t necessary.
Post # 11
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
Totalkaos1983: I dont really care either way. I picked mine out and it is his ring. So whatever makes him happy. But I know he will not, so I am not too worried.
Post # 12
Hey atleast hes wanting to wear a ring now!..I wouldn’t get mad at him or he may change his mind. Its his ring so atleast this way you know he will like it.
Post # 13
It is a bit weird. Like my DH would never go buy himself jewelry to start with, but I would not care. Clearly he would really love something to buy it on the stpot, and who I am to say no to that.