(Closed) If your Hubby was Sterile…

posted 8 years ago in Babies
  • poll: What would you do if you wanted children?
    Adopt : (170 votes)
    65 %
    Sperm injection : (74 votes)
    28 %
    Other I'll explain : (16 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    13096 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    We never actually discussed this so this is my gut feelings.

    If Darling Husband was sterile, I think I would want to try some kind of sperm injection/sperm donor before adoption.  I know there are a ton of great kids who need homes and I’d have no problem with adoption if it came to that.

    That said, I’ve always wanted to have biological children.  If Darling Husband and I couldn’t conceive together, a baby conceived using donor sperm would still have genes from me (just not DH).  I’d at least want to try that as an option before adopting.

    Post # 4
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    3709 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    My situation is different b/c I already have a daughter and Fiance has two sons. I think we would just be happy with the kids that we have.

    If neither of us had kids, I would probably go for the sperm injection before adoption.

    Post # 5
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    14183 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    We have talked about this. If we can’t have our own natural children, including with help from a doctor, we’ll adopt. My husband is very against me having a sperm donor, and frankly, I am just not comfortable with the idea of it being only my biological child. I’d rather us both be in the same position of being non-biological parents, versus just one of us. 

    Post # 6
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    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Our problem is reversed.  I’m the one that has a medical condition that will make conceiving a child hard, most likely impossible.  We have talked about it and we will adopt.  We are still going to have fun trying tho!!

    Post # 7
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    6009 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    We’ve talked about it before.  For me, if my husband was sterile, I would want to adopt.  For my husband, if I was unable to have biological children, he would want to try IVF or hire a surrogate.  It’s super important for my husband to have a biological child if at all possible; it’s not nearly as big of an issue for me.

    Post # 8
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    1927 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @ejs4y8:  Ditto everything you said.

    I really really really want biological children and would love to experience pregnancy, etc.  But it would just make me uncomfortable if we weren’t both in the same position as parents.

    Post # 9
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    14183 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    @Mrs SPring, oh i forgot about surrogacy. We’re very open to that as an option.

    Post # 10
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    2025 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Would absolutely adopt. I’m just a believer that if we can’t do it naturally, it just isn’t meant to be. I don’t think either one of us feels like we must have biological children; although that would be the ideal situation. 

    Post # 11
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    4123 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We would be THRILLED to have biological children, however, if we can’t do it naturally (through good ol sex 😉 we would absolutely adopt.  

    Post # 12
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    2321 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I picked sperm injection. I would like the child to be biologically related to atleast one of us. I also don’t think I would want to advertise to the child or anyone else that he is not a biological child of his father. (Unless there is a law dictating this somewhere.) I especially wouldn’t discuss this with my family or friends either, for fear that they will ‘casually’ mention this to my child later on in life and all hell will break lose. Frankly, our fertility (or lack thereof it) is nobody else’s business. Only the involved parties need to know anything. (Us, doctors, and possibly the child if s/he absolutely must.)

    Post # 13
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Ideally I’d like to adopt but the cost I think might be prohibitive. I don’t love the idea of a sperm donor but if that was the only way… well… that’d be the way!

    Post # 14
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    5496 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2010

    We would adopt. I would not want the child to be my biological child and not his. So, we would definitely adopt.

     

    Post # 15
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    1675 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We’ve discussed this and have decided that we would adopt. I have the utmost respect for couples who go through treatments for infertility, but it’s not something we would choose. So, in the case that we weren’t able to get pregnant the old fashioned way, we would adopt.

    Post # 16
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    7587 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    We have discussed it. If we can’t do it on our own, we will wait and travel and have a blast, and then adopt at a later age (40ish).

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