(Closed) If Your SO Cheated…Would You Stay?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

wow.. what a post!  This is really hard.. I don’t know.. it would depend on the situation.  I’d like to say “hell yeah, I’d leave his a**” but.. when you’re in it, you just don’t know.  If it were a Tiger Woods type situation, I’d be out so fast and not even look back.  But if it were like a Steve and Miranda situation on Sex and the City.. I’d have to think about it.

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Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would have to say, I would be out that door immediately.

I am the kind of person who gives my trust easily – but once you loose it, it is gone forever and you won’t be getting it back.

I would not be able to forgive that kind of betrayal, and I know that about myself, so there would be no point in dragging my FH/husband through any kind of attempt to reconcile!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would stay, those issues can be worked out in therapy.. unless he wasn’t willing to go to therapy then Idk what I’d do!

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

This is a hard post…it’s obviously a situation that none of us hope to be in. I think it would depend on the situation for me too, although my initial reaction is leave.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I would absolutely leave.

I wouldn’t have to think about it. If they cheat once, they will do it again. And in my opinion, cheating is unforgiveable. There are no exceptions.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

No. Absolutely not, and not under any conditions. Mr. KM knows that is the ULTIMATE dealbreaker for us (not that I in a million years think he would). I’d never be able to trust him again and that wouldn’t be fun for anyone. Might as well make a clean break once the truth comes out instead of trying to make it work, in my opinion. It’s just my opinion, and I think it’s cool that some girls would stay and try to work it out.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

My initial reaction would also be to leave, but I’ve never been in that situation, so who knows what I’d do. I just wouldn’t be able to trust him again, and can’t imagine myself staying.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

I’d have to think about it.  Honestly, I cheated once(go ahead put me down).  I was in highschool and really didn’t know what the hell I was doing, on top of that I was depressed and untreated for bipolar disorder.  I hated myself and did things I was not proud of.  Thankfully I’ve grown up a lot since then, got healthy and got my life back on track.  There’s not a day where I don’t regret it but he forgave me for it.  It all depends on the situation and if the person at fault will take full responibility for their actions and become a better person.  Trust takes time to rebuild but if it’s only one indiscretion then I think there are circumstances where they can be forgiven and move on. I don’t know how I’d personally react though for(as far as I know) I’ve never been cheated on.

cheating is wrong though. period. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee

I’ve been thinking about this a lot recently because of the posts on here… and I wouldn’t stay, no.  As much as I love Mr. Tacos, and even if we had children… I would not stay.  One that line has been crossed with me, I can’t go back.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

The thing that makes “US” work is that we trust each other with our lives. I don’t think I could even look at him if he did that to me. Just thinking about it makes me cringe. 

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper

I think it’s so hard to know what you’d actually do, until the situation presents itself.

I know I wouldn’t want to stay with someone who could so callously violate my trust… but I also think a lot more affairs take place than we could ever imagine.  

Heartbreaking, any way you look at it.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’d be gone in a second. If he cheated he is nowhere near the person I fell in love with and not someone I’d ever want to be with.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’d be gone. I’ve been in that situation and I left.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

You never know what you will do until it happens to you.  You say that you would leave, but until you are in that situation, you don’t know.

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