Post # 1
So I have come across a couple threads about some poor fellow bees who are dealing with unfaithful husbands.
And it made me think, if my husband cheated on me…would I stay and work it out?
For me its no, I wouldnt ever be able to trust him again and it would make not only me but him miserable. and that wouldnt be fair to either of us. I would immediately get a divorce. But when I ask my other friends about it they say that they would stay in the marriage and work it out. I just cant comprehend that!
So fellow bees would you stay? Or leave?
Post # 3
wow.. what a post! This is really hard.. I don’t know.. it would depend on the situation. I’d like to say “hell yeah, I’d leave his a**” but.. when you’re in it, you just don’t know. If it were a Tiger Woods type situation, I’d be out so fast and not even look back. But if it were like a Steve and Miranda situation on Sex and the City.. I’d have to think about it.
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Post # 4
I would have to say, I would be out that door immediately.
I am the kind of person who gives my trust easily – but once you loose it, it is gone forever and you won’t be getting it back.
I would not be able to forgive that kind of betrayal, and I know that about myself, so there would be no point in dragging my FH/husband through any kind of attempt to reconcile!
Post # 5
I would stay, those issues can be worked out in therapy.. unless he wasn’t willing to go to therapy then Idk what I’d do!
Post # 6
This is a hard post…it’s obviously a situation that none of us hope to be in. I think it would depend on the situation for me too, although my initial reaction is leave.
Post # 7
I would absolutely leave.
I wouldn’t have to think about it. If they cheat once, they will do it again. And in my opinion, cheating is unforgiveable. There are no exceptions.
Post # 8
No. Absolutely not, and not under any conditions. Mr. KM knows that is the ULTIMATE dealbreaker for us (not that I in a million years think he would). I’d never be able to trust him again and that wouldn’t be fun for anyone. Might as well make a clean break once the truth comes out instead of trying to make it work, in my opinion. It’s just my opinion, and I think it’s cool that some girls would stay and try to work it out.
Post # 9
My initial reaction would also be to leave, but I’ve never been in that situation, so who knows what I’d do. I just wouldn’t be able to trust him again, and can’t imagine myself staying.
Post # 10
I’d have to think about it. Honestly, I cheated once(go ahead put me down). I was in highschool and really didn’t know what the hell I was doing, on top of that I was depressed and untreated for bipolar disorder. I hated myself and did things I was not proud of. Thankfully I’ve grown up a lot since then, got healthy and got my life back on track. There’s not a day where I don’t regret it but he forgave me for it. It all depends on the situation and if the person at fault will take full responibility for their actions and become a better person. Trust takes time to rebuild but if it’s only one indiscretion then I think there are circumstances where they can be forgiven and move on. I don’t know how I’d personally react though for(as far as I know) I’ve never been cheated on.
cheating is wrong though. period.
Post # 11
I’ve been thinking about this a lot recently because of the posts on here… and I wouldn’t stay, no. As much as I love Mr. Tacos, and even if we had children… I would not stay. One that line has been crossed with me, I can’t go back.
Post # 12
The thing that makes “US” work is that we trust each other with our lives. I don’t think I could even look at him if he did that to me. Just thinking about it makes me cringe.
Post # 13
I think it’s so hard to know what you’d actually do, until the situation presents itself.
I know I wouldn’t want to stay with someone who could so callously violate my trust… but I also think a lot more affairs take place than we could ever imagine.
Heartbreaking, any way you look at it.
Post # 14
I’d be gone in a second. If he cheated he is nowhere near the person I fell in love with and not someone I’d ever want to be with.
Post # 15
I’d be gone. I’ve been in that situation and I left.
Post # 16
You never know what you will do until it happens to you. You say that you would leave, but until you are in that situation, you don’t know.