Post # 17
Love the article. I really can use a good/postive pick me up such as this one. I believe that he’s planning, so I just need to keep telling myself he’s planning and on his way to doing it. It might take a bit longer than I expected but it will happen. I need to remind myself that I saw those books on buying rings and I saw a piece of paper that had ring as the number one thing and then proposal idea as the number 2 thing. He usually doesnt’ write things down on paper unless he’s planning on doing things. That’s his way of sorting things out in his head.
But here’s my crazy brain thinking that he put those things in his desk as a prop, knowing I would snoop so I can just be quiet and not pressure him.
Post # 18
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I can totally relate to this. It took us, um, TWELVE years to get engaged. (Mind you, I didn’t particularly want to be engaged / married until about eleven years in.) My sweet and perfect, but somewhat anxiety-ridden and committment-shy, boyfriend is now my fiance who can’t wait to marry me.
Post # 19
It’s a totally sweet artcle. But I do indeed feel like a second-class citizen so I am still bitter. Knowing it will come doesn’t always help haha.
Post # 20
Personally, I wouldn’t have my guy read the article. But, I definitely read it to help me deal with waiting.
Post # 21
You’re welcome! I’m so glad I could help 🙂
Post # 22
To all the girls like antrhrogirl who have thanked me for posting this, I’m just paying it forward. I saw it posted on APW and it really hit home. So, I try to share it with girls like us to help us all because I certainly know, first-hand, how hard waiting can be. I’m so glad that I could help you all by sharing it. Remember: PAY IT FORWARD!
Post # 24
I hear you completely. After almost 8 years, I was starting to feel like a second-class citizen, too. This was especially true when yet another colleague would walk into work with a giant diamond on her hand (in fact, this happened just the other day…the same day my grandfather passed away…which brought everything into perspective).
Post # 25
Gosh, I love this! That’s exactly what my FH and I are doing, yet nobody (including my college roommate) understands that! Just perfect!
Post # 26
Hmmm…. not sure if I totally agree, its person by person I suppose.
A lot to think about though.
Post # 27
I might need to read the last paragraph of that article every day between now and whenever-the-heck I get engaged…
Post # 29
Thank you so much for posting this article. This helps me so much and I will continue to read it as I need it.
Post # 30
You’re right. Everything is different for everyone. I think it’s really important to remember that 😉
Post # 31
I think this article works if someone still needs time to get things ready, like guys who are trying to figure out the financial part of things. If someone has all their metaphorical ducks lined up, then it’s a little harder to get what there is to wait for. Though maybe he is just waiting for the pressure to lay off, I don’t know. Oh well, here’s to keeping quiet in the mean time, and laying off the pressure front.