Post # 32
You’re right. The article isn’t for everyone. I can relate to it because my boyfriend needed time to save money so that he could pay off my ring, have it resized and plan something special. At this point, this is definitely going to happen for us in less than a month (sometime before 12/02 – my 31st birthday). If all your metaphorical ducks are lined up and you’re unsure why you’re “waiting,” talk with your man. I talked with my boyfriend when I was unsure, and he was willing to give me a timeline.
Post # 33
@Skylifer: I’ve talked and posted all over WB. It’s too long to type out all over again.
But TG for this site else my poor friends would have had to listen to all my whining. =) Hope yours is everything you hope it is!
ETA: Poor friends would have had to listen to even more whining than they’ve already been subjected to, haha.
Post # 34
Thank you sooo much!
It’s true that men can be less open about their thoughts, and it’s probably wrong to assume that my SO never thinks about marriage… I feel bad because I’m always the one bringing it up, but I probably don’t need to, I’m sure he hasn’t forgotting and I’m unsure why we women assume that he would forget just because he doesn’t obsessively talk about it like we do.
Doesn’t help when friends and family are getting engaged left and right, but that’s such a silly thing to worry about…
Happy waiting everyone! We have to just find way to enjoy the anticipation. (lol)
Post # 36
Love this…just read it! its giving me some great perspective!
Post # 37
“When we were pre-engaged, I started to feel like a second-class citizen. I started getting self-conscious every time we showed up at a party and I still didn’t have a ring on. When those blasted red hearts showed up on my Facebook newsfeed announcing that so-and-so just got engaged, my first thought was usually “Already?! They’ve been together for two minutes!” Oh, and watching Teen Mom, where pregnant 16-year-olds get engaged every episode, I started feeling sincerely jealous that those kids “had it all.” (Yeah, it got bad.) I felt like people thought I wasn’t an adult because we weren’t engaged, that our relationship was on the rocks, or that Adam didn’t really love me. I felt completely powerless over the biggest decision of my life.”
THIS. I’ve never read anything more true. SO and I are in the most awkward pre-engagement period ever, and I understand this statement she said 1000 times over.
Post # 38
thank you for this! bookmarked and will be reading again and again. 🙂
Post # 38
Having a bad waiting day – going crazy with lack of clues & feeling outta control – when I found this way back from 2 years ago! I’m sure all the waiting bees who commented on this at the time are engaged by now, which makes me feel so happy! But the web post itself just helped me so much…
anyone who is having a tough waiting period, treat yourself and read it xxx
Its easy to forget why we want the question, the ring, for our SO ‘s to scream that they will love us forever from the rooftops, but this post put it all in perspective. I am head over heels in love with my SO. And it’s his proposal too. He asked me to trust him so I will … and I’ll mentally cut him some slack too after reading this!
Post # 39
I know this is a really old thread, but what a great article that was!!
Post # 41
Awesome! !! Need more encouraging articals like this for women in waiting
Post # 42
Great article! I’m glad it was resurrected and I found it.
I nearly teared up when I read it – I think I’ve had enough wine for tonight!