(Closed) If you're coming to my house…

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Post # 62
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@Miss Fish:  my friend once told me she judges people who don’t have books in their home and I felt so self conscious! I have two e readers and an iPad. I only have books for display, and they are mostly collectible or coffee table books. I donated all of my physical books when I moved into a small condo with a boy who is nuts about interior design.

Our apartment was featured in a sneak peak on Apartment Therapy and there were a couple of comments about how books were displayed (on an etagere with a candle on top, with some ceramic figurines, etc) and all I could think about is that people think we don’t read!

Post # 63
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@letigre:  Haha I don’t judge people if they don’t have them, but when they do I’m like “ooooh what do these people like to read?” I think it’s understood that these days a lot of people have nooks and other e-readers so no books =/= no reading anymore.

I also have some books being used to display other items in our house, but that is partially because I was running out of shelf space and partially because the burnt-orange covers of a few books I had coordinated perfectly with our couch pillows. They can be cute AND functional!

Post # 64
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@Miss Fish:  yeah she said she judges hard if there are no books, and judges the books themselves if she sees them. She hasn’t mentioned anything to me now that she has come over a few times, but I do sometimes wonder if she thinks I actually only read Vanity Fair Portraits or a photobook on Yves St Laurent, LOL.

Post # 65
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

The first thing I look for and notice is clutter. I don’t know how people live with clutter. 

Post # 66
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Busy bee

@MrsPanda99:  I certainly don’t look any further than I can see. I notice clutter or mess, I take an interest in photos on the wall (I love photos!).

I once went to a friend’s house and his puppies had crapped on the carpet. Ugh, I had to step over it to get to the toilet. I notice mess like THAT as opposed to say a house that is lived in. Another friend of mine lives in a house that looks like a display home – beautiful furniture and impeccably maintained.

My house is always clean because SO and I like it that way. We will go to extra effort to clean our clean house if we’re expecting guests!

It makes me super anxious when I watch a movie and a guest is going through someone’s medicine cabinet. Who does that?!

Post # 67
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1953 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Smells, pet waste, grime and clutter. I’ve been to a house that is pristine in every room BUT the toilet/bathroom. I held on until I got home, and it wasn’t easy. I walked into one home that just smelled like cat urine. Walked through the door and it hit me like a ton of bricks. I could smell it on me when I got home that evening.

Post # 68
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273 posts
Helper bee

I’d notice the smell, but I wouldn’t necessarily judge you on it. Everyone’s house has a smell, and while I don’t like the smell of some of my friends’ houses, they’re not BAD smells. Does that make sense? They’re just weird to me but you stop noticing them after a while, whereas a bad smell you don’t get used to.

I might judge based on mess. Not so much understandable clutter, like books on a table or folded laundry on a chair. But if random crap was strewn across the floor and all the surfaces, I’d judge (not because I’m tidy myself, but because I’d pick my crap off the floor if someone was visiting and expect others to do the same).

It’s rare that I’d judge the decor of a house, unless it was a particularly bold style that I didn’t like. But I think most peoples houses are boring and neutral, so a particularly ‘out there’ style would be more likely to interest me than make me go “urgh, tacky” unless it was incredibly tacky.

 

I would never go through someone’s cupboards unless I’d been given permission (“Oh, the painkillers are in the wardrobe, top shelf”) or I was looking for something I needed (loo roll, kitchen towels etc). I wouldn’t snoop for the sake of it.

 

Post # 69
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I notice if the bathroom is dirty.  And it kind of irks me if someone knew they were having company and couldn’t be bother to clean it.

I also notice the kitchen floor, especially if there are crumbs/unknown little things on the floor that you feel when you step on them.  Yuck!

Other than that I’m not too observant, but I’ll usually notice if someone got a new piece of furniture or something.

Post # 70
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@MrsPanda99:  I judge people who have dirty houses- especially dirty bathrooms. Clutter is ok, but actual dirtiness is gross. 

Oh and when houses smell like dog. Disgusting. 

Post # 71
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242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Oh great. My in laws are visiting for the first time this month, and now I’m terrified!! Especially about cat smells!

Post # 73
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2777 posts
Sugar bee

Smell, CLUTTER, dust. Its bothersome 

Post # 74
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1379 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@QueenOfSerendip:  Why do you judge people who don’t have animals? I love animals but don’t have any pets because I’m in no position to have them. I have volunteered for animal rescues though to help out. I think that’s responsible.

And you would judge the crap out of my furniture. I just don’t have the money for nice furniture and even if I did, I don’t care about it much. And the car I had before I moved to NYC was a gas-guzzler. It was a hand-me-down, not one that I brought myself.

I do serve delicious home-cooked food though!

Post # 75
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@MrsPanda99:  I think I generally do the same as you: I notice the animals (I LOVE animals and always want to play with them), notice the smells, and I like looking at the pictures. Its a good way to get to know another person without going around and snooping into all their stuff – thats a line I simply refuse to cross.

I never comment on anything unless its a positive or I know the person well-enough to know that they won’t take offense. I’ve never met someone who was abusive (that I knew of), but if I did I certainly would mention something about it in that case.

Post # 76
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@MrsPanda99:  well you can te the difference between people who clean their houses regularly and the ones who don’t. And people who have carpet and an animal houses usually smell worse than those who don’t. I guess the smell just lives in the Carpet. 

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