(Closed) If you’re having a girl, will you get her ears pierced?

posted 11 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Are you going to pierce your daughter's ears?

    Yes

    No

    Not sure

  • Post # 32
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    Mine were pierced when I was 2 months or something like that. I choose not to pierce my daughter’s ears until she requests them. She can make that decision on her own. I do like the idea of making a day out of it. That would be exciting for her and me.

    Post # 33
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    I got my ears pierced when I was a third grader as a reward. I quit sucking my thumb and my reward was pierced ears.  I will let my daughter get her ears pierced, but I won’t do it when she’s a baby, I want her to be able to take care of the piercings herself, like I had to do.

    Post # 34
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010 - Anela Garden Chapel & Japanese Cultural Center, Honolulu

    i asked for pierced ears at age ten. my mom took me out to get them done, and then my dad was furious when he found out. guess she didn’t clear it with him first! So I’d definitely wait til the kid asked for them, and only if they were mature enough to really realize what they are asking for.

    Post # 35
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

    I’ll wait til she asks for it herself and give it to her as a reward. I think I got my ears pierced when I was 6 or 7 because I asked for it, and I was able to clean and care for them myself. I remember wanting it so badly that I didn’t even feel any pain! I think as soon as she wants it and is clearly a responsible enough person to care for them herself then I’m all for it!

    Post # 36
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    Bumble bee

    Only after she asks.  I asked for them at five, my mom tells me I was not happy with them, and once they were healed, I only wore earrings when I had to, up until I was 17 or so.  My mom had two sets, I wanted two sets, but even though I’d asked for them regularly, I didn’t get the second set until I was 20.  

    I would worry that she’d be angry with me if I had them done when she wasn’t old enough to ask, because what if she doesn’t like earrings?  Sure, she doesn’t have to wear them, but if she’s anything like me, that hole isn’t going anywhere.

    Post # 37
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    I had my ears pierced when I was 2; I think it had to do with the fact that I had hardly any hair on my head and my parents wanted me to look more girly.  Haha.

    I voted yes, though.

    Post # 38
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    I was 13 when I got mine pierced, and my daughter is 5 and still doesn’t have hers pierced.  Probably a few years from now, when she asks (she hasn’t really yet) and is ready to take care of them herself, I’ll be fine with it.

    Post # 39
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    Helper bee

    There is no “I will let her decide for herself” option so I didn’t vote. 

    I really wanted to pierce Madison’s ears when she was itty bitty because, well, that’s when mine were pierced and I’ve never had an issue.  However, once I separated my thoughts from my personal experience and entertained the thought that — gee, Madison is NOT me, maybe we should let HER decide —  DH and I were able to hold off on running out to the nearest piercing parlor. 

    To this day, my dad harasses me about buying his granddaughter a pair of gold studs, and we’re often questioned by our (largely Hispanic) family about our choice to delay piercing.  I’m not pulling a culture card here but in all honesty, it’s pretty typical for us to pierce girls’ ears at a young age. 

    We simply tell everyone we are waiting for her to ask to have her ears pierced herself.  Who am I to put holes in her ears if she may not truly want them?  One of my closest friends has pierced ears (they were pierced when she was an infant) and when she was old enough to express that she disliked earrings, she never wore another pair.  She simply doesn’t like them.  Knowing my daughter, she’ll probably want them, but again…it’ll be on her terms.

    Post # 40
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I think it’s funny how things are differnt in different places

    I am from Seattle and am totally against getting babies ears peirced. I don’t see a lot of babies in Seattle with earrings

    BUT when I moved to Boise, Idaho for 2 years …I swear that almost every baby girl had her ears pierced. It’s funny how something that be really rare in one city/state and then TOTALLY common somewhere else

    It made me cringe everytime I saw it…but everyone in Idaho just thought that I was the weird one  haha

    Basically…as baby is not a doll. I just don’t think it’s right

    Post # 41
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I didn’t get mine pierced till I was like 7 and I asked my Mom to do it.  Sometimes ppl do it when their baby is like 1 day old, but I’d be afraid that their ear grows and the hole ends up not in the right place anymore. Plus it’s one more thing u have to worry about….”oh no, she pulled out her earring”…”it’s bleeding”…..”oh no the back is gone”…too much trouble to put them into a squirming baby’s ears if u ask me.

    Post # 42
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    ny last line sounded really snarky

    Didn’t mean to come off like that

    Post # 43
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Not unti they are old enough to ask. 

    Post # 44
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Yes. I will but unsure about the age.  Should I do it when they are young or when they are older.  Don’t know.

    Post # 45
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I think stuff like that shouldn’t be done to a child until they’re old enough to want it. Not that we don’t regret things we do (um bellybutton ring? not a great look on me) but I don’t want my hypothetical future daughter being all ‘I hate taking care of my ears I wish you never got them pierced’ etc etc.

    Post # 46
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    She can get the pierced when she’s older. I would want her to take responsibity for changing for them and being able to change them herself. I was 10 when I got mine.

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