(Closed) If you’re having a girl, will you get her ears pierced?

posted 11 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Are you going to pierce your daughter's ears?



    Not sure

  • Post # 47
    4765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

    I will wait until she’s old enough to ask for it. Some people just never want their ears pierced! As soon as she’s old enough to ask for them and she actually wants it, though, by all means, that’s fine.

    Post # 49
    6009 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    Lol, MightySapphire, I feel you on the expensive part.  Unfortunately, even the hypo-allergenic earrings irritate my ears.  I have to wear 18k gold or better.  I can’t even wear stupid platinum, which is also supposed to be hypo-allergenic.  🙁  Hopefully, my kids won’t have the same problem, because it’s really annoying!

    Post # 50
    7081 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2009

    This is an issue that I run into every day.  I have to fish retained earrings out of babies ears often in the ER.  I also treat plenty of infections secondary to piercings in infants.

    I know that this practice is quite common in some cultures in the Seattle area, but at least for me, it’s not worth all the attendant risks to do this to a child who is not able to take care of the piercings herself.

    For that matter, I opted to take earrings out of my ears years ago and never look back.  If my daughter is anything like me, she may not even want them.

    Post # 51
    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    @spraguebride: I hear you, but from the other end.  Every girl I grew up with (and many of my current girlfriends) got their ears pierced as infants.  I never thought of doing it any differently.  Must be a regional thing in some cases…

    Post # 52
    2560 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I will likely pierce my daughter’s ears as an infant, in my family it is traditional to do them between 3-6 months of age. None of us, my cousins, or my aunts has any problems from the ears being pierced as infants. However, I can understand the opinion of those who wouldn’t do that with their own infant daughters.

    Post # 53
    211 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I can understand the hesitation of having a baby or young child’s ears pierced and I respect a parent’s decision to wait.

    My mom had mine pierced at 4mos. I had 4 other holes pierced much later when I was in my teens. The holes that were pierced in my teens are sore, they close up overnight, the get infected easily- but the holes pierced when I was 4mos have no issues. Now, I only wear earrings in my original holes.

    I don’ t know if it has to do with the length of time or the way the body heals when it’s young but whatever it is, it’s the reason I will have my little girl’s ears pierced when they are babies.


    Post # 54
    1523 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Probably. I don’t really see it as a big deal. I was born in Brazil and there all female babies get their ears peirced while in the hospital at birth unless the parents indicate otherwise!

    Post # 55
    1023 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Nope, I’m going to wait until my kidlets are older and want it themselves.

    Post # 56
    176 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I got my ear (yes, ear) pierced when I was 5. I don’t remember if my mom or I suggested it. For some reason the lady at the mall decided to do them one at a time and it hurt so bad I wouldn’t let her do the other one. I went through 6 months of school with one golden bear earring. Then, I finally worked up the courage to go back and get the other one 🙂 My mom and I still laugh about that.

    I think I will definitly wait until my kids wanted their ears pierced. I think that earrings look funny on little bald babies, like they’re just not supposed to be there. My aunt said she was doing it so that her little girl wouldn’t remember it hurting, but now they have those super fast guns and they do them at once so you don’t even have time to react. They’re probably more sterile that way, too, since they just pierce your ear directly with the earring.

    Post # 57
    3586 posts
    Sugar bee

    I’ll pierce them when she was a baby. I had mine doen when I was a baby and I see no problem with it.

    As an African American woman, with a relaxer, I’ll let her decide on that. She can remove earrings, but getting rid of a relaxer will mean growing her hair back out after a big chop. Too much trouble to fix.

    Post # 58
    1317 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    HereComesTheSun, I’ve had the same issue with my piercing. As a teen, I wanted to get a 2nd piercing and although I took good care of it, the feel isn’t the same as my original piercing that was done when I was an infant.

    I hardly ever wear earrings and because I got it done so young, you can’t even see they’re there – but when I do want to wear earrings, I can without fussing with clip-ons. If I have a daughter, I’ll want to pierce her ears. If she wants to wear earrings, it’s her choice. But I’m not so sure how the Fi and my in-laws would feel about it. As for the earrings falling off, there’s gold screw-ons, it’s what I wore as a baby.

    Post # 59
    6571 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    i won’t. my mom’s ears aren’t pierced, and she had us wait. my sister got her’s pierced as her gift for being good for her kindergarten shots. they offered her anything, a trip to disneyworld, anything. but she wanted her ears pierced. i waited longer, till i was 16. i feel like i’ll take them out eventually.

    Post # 60
    2280 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    If I ever have a girl, I won’t get them pierced. She can get them as a birthday gift if she asks during the teen years, and I think she’s mature enough to take care of them on her own. For infant girls, I don’t like the maintenance and I don’t like the way they look. There’s something about them sexualizing young girls that I don’t like…eh, I dunno. I can’t put it into words.

    Post # 61
    7995 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I did not get my daughter ears pierced despite everyone telling me “oh its soooooo cute, you haaaaave to!  I figured she should have the chouce of whether or not to put a hole in her body.  So when she got to be about 4, I started to ask if she would like to have it done, but she didn’t want to.  She will be seven soon and still does not want to- so I kind of feel validated that I made the right decision in letting her decide.

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