Post # 1
I was having a chat with a friend about this… If you are on the pill do you use a condom as well?
I’m currently on the pill (and am considering to the IUD) but we always use a condom. I’m terrified of an accident… But maybe I’m concerned for no reason?! I wanted to get an IUD before my honeymoon, but I don’t think it’s going to happen. I’m tossing around the idea of not using a condom, while on the pill.
Also: I understand that condoms are birth control, but for the sake of this convo & poll, let’s assume birth control as a female contraceptive (pill, shot, ring, patch, IUD).
Post # 3
@FutureMrsM87: I never did but if using a condom brings you peace of mind so that you can relax and enjoy sex more, there’s nothing wrong with doubling up.
Post # 4
We did, but only if I was on antibiotics. Other then that, no.
Post # 5
I didn’t double up, but I know a TON of girls who do!
Post # 6
I’ve always been very good about taking my birth control pills, and almost 5 years later, have never had an accidental pregnancy. But I understand why some women double up, it’s really not quite 100% effective. And I completely understand not wanting to have an unplanned pregnancy, and needing to consider some sacrifices.
But when I was 18 and reckless I found out that while I don’t hate condoms, I just really prefer sex without them. At least every time I didn’t make a guy use one it wasn’t the first time we slept together, and he confirmed that he was clean to the best of his knowledge and willing to be sexually exclusive with me until one or both of us decided to move on. And I never got an STI either 🙂
Post # 7
We did in the beginning of our relationship, but only because he was super paranoid. I wasn’t as worried. Eventually he let go of that, and now we only use the pill.
I have friends who use two methods though, and I think that’s fine. If it makes your mind at ease, then do it as long as you’re both happy.
Post # 8
@FutureMrsM87: We Do! for us it’s more peace of mind. Plus even with both of those expenses, it’s cheaper than a baby!
Post # 9
Better than 99% effectiveness is good enough for me! But plenty of people do become pregnant on the pill, so there’s nothing wrong with doubling up for extra safety. Remember to tell your pharmacist if you’re taking antibiotics, St. John’s Wort, or even eating lots of grapefruit, as those can all influence effectiveness.
Post # 10
Other. DBF and I haven’t had sex yet, and we are undecided on whether or not to double up with condoms. When researching birth control methods, I picked the Implanon implant because I wanted a method that could stand on its own.
Maybe I’ve read one too many stories about women not taking their birth control pills at the right time of day or forgetting to use backup when on antibiotics only to be surprised with a pregnancy, but if I were on the pill, I could see DBF and I using condoms every single time. The user error rate scares me, especially since we are not at a good place in our lives for me to get pregnant.
Post # 11
We did in the beginning, but neither of us are big fans of condoms. I have an IUD now and we threw away all of our condoms!
Post # 12
Thanks for all the replies! I don’t neccessarily hate condoms (we’ve never not used them, so as my friend says- I don’t know what I’m missing out on ;))… But I do like the peace of mind. However, there are “times” when it would be nice not to have to fuss with them.
I think I’ll continue to use them often, but know that if there’s that occassion that arises and we don’t want too – that there’s no harm.. Ahem*honeymoon*ahem!
Post # 13
I do, for the most part. There are times when it’s irritating – not having a condom ready, the condom slipping or being influential in the loss of erection – and I’ve either said Fuck it or have abstained from sex. However I prefer to use both the pill and a condom because I still don’t like the odds of 1 in 100 (perfect use) when just on the pill.
Post # 14
I don’t anymore, but for years I did. My Darling Husband is the only person with whom I’ve had sex without a condom and we were together for years before we did.
For me it was the same reason as you – I was SUPER paranoid about an unwanted pregnancy. I never wanted to be in that situation or in the situation of having to decide if I could go through with an abortion. Not when we have all the tools available to us to prevent it.
Over the years I have been on the shot, the ring, and an IUD and have used condoms with all of them. Just made me feel extra secure.
My Darling Husband was always fine with it as he was on the same page about pregnancy.
Post # 15
No, we don’t. I’m pretty diligent on taking my pill everyday around the same time. Plus, if I’m pumping my body full of gross chemicals to protect myself from pregnancy…I at least better be free from using condoms!
Post # 16
All of the things you’ve listed are Methods of Birth Control… each having their own Effectiveness (Success & Failure Rates) which are well documented… in in my mind something that EVERY WOMAN should educate herself on, so she truly can choose BC that suits her as an individual.
The key here is the word METHOD
Any form of Birth Control is only going to be as good as the METHOD one employs to use it correctly and responsibly.
So ya, technically one could use one form of BC solo, without utilizing anything else… such as The Pill, IUD, etc.
I certainly did that for the majority of my first marriage.
The fact that people choose to double or triple up is a personal one, based on how correctly & responsibly they are in using whatever BC they employ.
There have certainly been times in my life where I’ve double or tripled up…
Sometimes because I wanted more assurance that I wouldn’t wind up pregnant (when I was married, and had just had a baby, and didn’t want another immediately thereafter… wanted to space them)
OR Sometimes because I was in a less committed relationship (while I was Divorced) … and I strongly wanted to increase my odds of not getting pregnant
OR Always including a Condom, if I was in a Relationship with someone where we had not gotten to the point where both of us had gotten checked out with a Clean Bill of Health in regards to Save-The-Date Cards *
* A complete screening for Save-The-Date Cards is not immediate… it takes some time (weeks) for the results to come back. I would never go without a Condom without having had that Clean Bill of Health first.
Hope this helps,