(Closed) Iffy about wedding invite, in-law issue…..sorry, long post

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

In 10 years would you regret not going?

If not don’t go. I am not saying there might not be hurt feelings over your not going but it doesn’t seem like it matters one way or the other if I am reading this situation right. You go SIL will get mad at something else a month or two down the road. You don’t go, you save yourself the money and hassle. You can always send her a gift via mail if that makes you feel better. Either way SIL might bad mouth you, so if you won’t regret it, dont go.

If you will regret it or feel left out when everyone in the family is talking about it then go.

Sorry if I am oversimplifying this but I am not involved in the emotional part of this.

As a bride I would rather have people there that truly want to be there. I am having to cut, cut , cut  my guest list due to $$ so RSVP tomorrow so she can give your spot to someone else. Would I be hurt that my Uncle who I barely know doesn’t come? Only if my mom made a big deal of it saying look he doesn’t care about you etc. Actually I am not even inviting my uncles as we aren’t close and I have 600 people we are close to that  I would love to invite but cannot afford to. I would put a very kind letter in a card and be done with it.

Hope this helps 🙂

Post # 5
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3638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Not going will just make shit hit the fan! Go to keep the peace, go to enjoy a lovely meal, go to catch up with family, go to dance and just enjoy an event.

If you don’t go you will never hear the end of it and you will never have a nice relationship with SIL or her family. People change as time goes on and you never know how close you might be in the future. However, if you don’t go I can guarantee that you will never be close and that your children will just end up hating their cousins when in fact, they might have been mates! 

 

 

 

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