(Closed) If/when you graduated college, did you notice this?

posted 7 years ago in College
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

People seemed to wait longer in my area (I graduated 6 years ago, though). I don’t think any of the girls I went to college with (my program had about 40 people in it) got married while in college; they were either already married or waited until afterwards.

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I know of 5 or more other girls in my year that are graduating this may and getting married this summer/fall.  So YES!  I have noticed it!

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I went to college in the south. There definitely was a big rush of graduation engagements.

Since then there has been almost nothing, now that we are 5 years out of college, there’s another big rush of engagements.

They seem to come in waves.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I was in a grad school program with 12 girls, one boy. I person got married during school, the rest of us waited until a while after.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Nope. Of my group of 9 close friends from college, the first one got married at 25, the second at 26. The next two were 28 and 30, and I’ll be 31. There are still four others who are neither engaged nor married.  Two of them are in LTRs and two aren’t.

ETA: however, I went to high school in TX, and it was muuuuuch more common there for people to get married during or immediately after college, especially at the more conservative schools.

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I went to school in southern California at a small liberal arts school that drew students from all over the country (but about 50% were Californians).  There was no rush at all.  I knew one guy who got married during college, had one friend who got married very suddenly about a year after college (she ended up getting divorced a couple of years later).  Other than that, that was it until people hit 25.

My fiance went to school in Boston – most of his friends were from the Northeast – and while one long-term couple got married after graduation, that was it.  Same as with my friends, there was no rush until people started hitting 25+.

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I’m down towards the South and there was a huge pile of engagements my senior year of undergrad and a few months before/after graduation.  The other college relationships peetered out or are being pretty quiet (I’ve been out for about a year now!)  

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think it depends on the region a lot of times.  Practically all my friends from high school (Texas) are married and on kid 1 or 2.  However, my friends from college (Florida) are just now getting married, about 3-4 years out from college.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@JennBug89: In 2002 when I graduated from undergrad, Cincinnati area, there were a few engagements right out of school. Within a few years, more got engaged and married. It seems like only recently, about 10 years later, that the majority are now engaged or married. Out of the group of girls that I hung out with, two out of about ten aren’t engaged or dating. The rest have gotten engaged and married within the past 4 years. Out of the same group of girls, only three have children. One got pregnant right after college, married, and went on to have 3 more children. While another had her first about a year after getting married in 2007. The third is due any day now and got married in August 2009 a couple of months before me. So from what I’ve seen, it’s a slow progression out of college to engaged, married, and babies.  

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I went to school in the South and this was definitely the case among my friends.

“Ring by spring.”

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@teaadntoast: Even at my school, there was a sense of that among the seniors. It was like a virus or something. Most of my friends became boy/husband crazy, but rarely succeeded. I wasn’t dating anyone or even remotely entertaining the thought as I enjoyed living by myself, having fun, and preparing for graduate school.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper

Yeah, it’s really common at private universities. At my university it was called “Ring by Spring” because it was like a mad dash to get engaged.

It’s sad, because about 1/3 of the couples who I knew that got married right out of college (4 years ago) are divorced already. :/

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

The people I know who got married at 22/23 are all now divorced :/ Not that I knew tons, but there are at least 5 couples now.

It also came in a wave for me. Nothing happened from 23-28 then all of a sudden everyone I knew was engaged. It calmed down for about a year and there’s like an aftershock wave of engagements.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Wow I’m from California and none of my friends got married when we graduated from college… but then we all went to graduate school and THEN we all pretty much got engaged around the same time. We’re all about 27-29. I think it really depends on what career you want to have (hance all the grad school) and if you feel prepared for marriage.  Another aspect for my friends and I was just being able to be independent and financially secure before getting married, and our FI’s felt the same way. My Fiance and my close friend’s Fiance (now husband) proposed while we were both finishing up graduate school and didn’t start planning the wedding until at least a year after we graduated.

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