(Closed) ignoring bridesmaids

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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1284 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@melaylay: I’m sorry you’re going through this. Have you tried to talk to them? You might try asking them if they still want to be in the wedding and go from there. 

Post # 4
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1284 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@melaylay: I’m sorry you’re going through this. Have you tried to talk to them? You might try asking them if they still want to be in the wedding and go from there. 

Post # 5
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1370 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think you’re being very nice and understanding about this whole situation. If they aren’t responding to you and you’re not best friends with them – ask/tell them to step down. It’s not your job to hunt down your bridesmaids. If they’re acting like this now, I can’t imagine their behavior will improve when you need help/communication about other wedding issues or projects.

I vote letting your Future Sister-In-Law step up to the plate since she’s willing to help out and be more supportive. Believe me, as the wedding gets closer you’ll want more and more support from your friends and they’ll have to be able to communicate in order to give you that support. Sorry you’re going through this, I know how frustrating it can be. I asked 2 bridesmaids to step down for similiar reasons.

Post # 6
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2053 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@melaylay: You’ve been kind and patient long enough. I would call (no email, no text) each of the unresponsive BMs individually saying you understand their busy lives but citing that you are running out of time. Say you are getting the feeling by their lack of response that they are either: a) interested in being a bridesmaid but just too busy or b) no longer interested. In either case you understand and will hold no grudge, but you need to know by (insert exact date here) whether or not they still want to be a bridesmaid. If they do still want to be a bridesmaid, be clear with them that they will need to respond to you in a more reasonable amount of time and you are doing your best to accommodate them. If they don’t want to be a bridesmaid, just let it go politely (don’t get wrapped up in any drama, just forge ahead with your special, happy event, okay?) and bring in your Future Sister-In-Law. If you don’t hear from them by you deadline, you will assume they are no longer a bridesmaid and you will be moving on without them. I hope things continue more smoothly for you. Best of luck!

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