- 4 years ago
- Wedding: January 2004
OMG bees, I’m so fu*king frustrated right now! I don’t even know where to start, so here I go…
My 2 out of my 3 bridesmaids/MOH are completely useless. My 3rd bridesmaid lives 5 hours away, and she’s my rock. She helps me through whatever crisis I’m going through, she helped me pick my invitations via internet, sends me ideas on Pinterest, etc. She’s amazing. As for my other 2, I was texting with them for a few weeks so we could get together at my place and get the invitations put together. Nobody responded to me, so I had to do them myself. Fine. I had a system and 3.5 hours later they were done and ready to be mailed. I realized I forgot to put stamps on a few RSVP envelopes. Ok, no biggie. Then I get a phone call from FIs family friend saying her invitation was blank. How did I miss that? I put a blank card in place of the invitation. She said it was no biggie and she got the information from another friend. I called and left a message apologizing like crazy, and explaining I did them myself and I’m usually pretty thorough. I haven’t heard back from her.
My MOH is planning my bachelorette party. I wrote a post previously expressing my aggravation because she wantes to make the party “as cheap as possible”. I’m not one of those brides who expects a trip to Vegas for fuck sake, I want to go to a piano bar/bowling ally and out to dinner. Not too much to ask, right? I told her and she kept beating around the bush saying “yeah, idk, we’ll see”. Um, no. This is what I want. Sorry to sound like a bitch, but I won’t be happy hanging out at her house drinking, or whatever the hell she has planned (if anything). I told my BM from out of town and she said she would fight on my behalf that this is what I want, and she’s going to see if MOH has anything planned. MOH is a very last minute type of person, flying by the seat of her pants. I had to beg her to figure out a date since my other BM from out of town has specific weekends she’s not working (she’s a RN).
My parents are pissing me off. Before I go any farther, FI and I are paying for this whole wedding ourselves, including the reherrsal dinner. Yet people want to throw in their 2 cents about how things should be done. My mom the other day asked me why FI’s parents need to be at the reherrsal dinner. Ummmm, because it’s their son who is getting married! That’s why! Then she asked me why FI’s god mother and husband are going to be there. Correct me if I’m wrong, but aren’t those staying at the hotel also included in the reherrsal dinner? Plus she’s going to be doing a reading at the ceremony. I set my mom straight and told her not to worry about who is coming to the reherrsal dinner because FI and I are paying for it. Then she screams at me, saying that she’s sick of me mentioning that, and she doesn’t feel that her and my dad need to be at the reherrsal dinner, and if they don’t feel like coming, they won’t. Ugh, whatever.
MIL. She mentioned that it’s customary for the parents of the bride and groom to get together the next morning and be present while B&G open envelopes and pay for breakfast. Sorry, but I don’t feel that FI and I have to pay for everyones breakfasts, especially since we’ll be paying for the reherrsal dinner and the wedding. Plus, I don’t feel comfortable with MIL and FIL knowing how much $$ we’re getting from people. Sorry, but it’s nobody elses business but mine and FI’s. I still want to get together for breakfast, just not open envelopes in front of family.
Ugh I’m so emotionally drained with everything that’s going on. I just want this to be over 🙁