(Closed) I'll be happy when this stupid wedding is over! :-( Long

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
7999 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

We’ve all been there…

First, open a bottle of wine. Pour yourself a glass. Drink the wine.

Repeat until you feel better.

Also works with gin.

Post # 5
859 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@MrsSweetT:  oh how annoying! Would they take a smile and a “we decided not to do that” as an answer? Or are they pushy about it?

Post # 6
1426 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

You can’t really, in good tact, make demands of your MOH or BMs on what to do for your bachelorette party.  Although I’d be really disappointed if she hosted a party at her house… oy.  Maybe you can get your better BM to step up and handle the planning?

It’s optional as to whether or not you want out of town guests (those staying at the hotel) at your rehearsal dinner.  For me, we opted not to, since 100% of my family is OOT, lol.  It would be like two receptions.

Also, I would not want anyone there when we opened gifts either!  I also don’t want to pay for them to have breakfast the next day… what.. didn’t I just pay for you to eat at the RD AND the reception?  You want mooooore?

Sorry for your frustrations.  🙁

Post # 7
969 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Oh, I was there up until the very day of my wedding… My family completely cut up, you would be suprised at the personalities that arise during a wedding, no different that a funeral.  Byt I will say, the moment you walk down the isle and see your hubby to be, it makes all of it worth it.  So hang in there, I agree, drink a few glasses of wine, watch a funny movie and laugh your butt off.

And I will tell you what helped me… I decided to take a week long break from planning the wedding, that meant, my FI and I had no wedding discussion, we purchaed nothing, we planned nothing and I stayed off the BEE for a week… I felt rejuvinated after the wedding fast.



Post # 8
5664 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@MrsSweetT:  MIL. She mentioned that it’s customary for the parents of the bride and groom to get together the next morning and be present while B&G open envelopes and pay for breakfast.

WHA! NO! A) I wouldn’t be buyin no one’s freakin breakfast after hosting a rehearsal diner and wedding that they didn’t help pay for. How about YOU buy ME breakfast!? B) Having your parents watch you open gifts is a totally traditional and antiquated ritual. We didn’t do this and had no desire to. 

Post # 9
680 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Rachel631:  I don’t know you, but this advice makes me so love you! Listen to her, brides. She speaks the truth!

Post # 10
969 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MrsSweetT:  and one last piece of advice…… going forward keep your plans between you and your FI.  If you share your plans your family will have their opinions whether they are solicited or not.  Since you are paying for it all, you really don’t owe anyone a status update other than your mate.  

Post # 13
810 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m sorry, Op. 🙁 This is why I eloped. Best of luck…I am sure everything will be great once its all said and done.:)

Post # 14
1402 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

If you want something done right…you do it yourself.

I didn’t want to be obligated to attend a bachelorette party I didn’t want and I didn’t want to rely on bridesmaids to help me with basic wedding stuff….so I didn’t have bridesmaids.  Boom – all expectations can now be tossed out the window.

You want something done your way?  Do it yourself.  Bridesmaids are there to stand with you on your day – despite what the industry says….they don’t owe you anymore more than that.  You can be frustrated but just get the attitude if you want something done when it comes to this wedding – you gotta do it yourself.  Depending on others (like most things in life) will usually lead to disappointment.

Post # 15
544 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I am sorry you go through this…I totaly feel your pain..our wedding is in 12 days..and nobody is helping me..nobody is planning my bachelorette party..my bridesmaids not concerned about anything..there are a lot of things that are not finished yet…but who cares right?

And I can’t wait for the whole thing to be over..

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