(Closed) I'll do anything

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 4
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9718 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

We’re going to need details about your relationship to answer.  What is your relationship status?  How long have you been together?  How old are both of you?

Answer those for a start and we can get the ball rolling, lol.

Post # 6
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4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

get off wedding forums so you don’t have WEDDING FEVER in yo face!

seriously though talking to engaged and married ladies all day long on a wedding related form is pretty much not going to help you enjoy your relationship as is until he thinks the time is right.

Post # 9
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9718 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@missjuli:  Ok, great and thanks for the details.  It really sounds as though you’re on the right track, to tell you the truth.  I love the engagement chicken idea, couldn’t hurt.  😉

Seriously, keep talking with him about it, without pressuring but sharing your feelings.  If he’s open to moissanite that’s awesome!  Pick out a couple of designs you like and email pics to him so he has a concrete idea of what you like and price ranges.

A proposal might be coming sooner than you think.

Edit:  Why have you been staying at his place less and less?  Be careful about playing games – playing hard to get might backfire.  My Fiance told me if any woman ever played games with him in the past he dropped her like a hot rock.  Be cautious.  It’s ok to live your own life but you don’t want to send the wrong message that you’re having second thoughts, because that may give him second thoughts, too.  Enjoy the relationship you have and be open with him about how you’re feeling and why getting engaged and married is important to you. 

Post # 10
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174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@vmec:  I second that!

@missjuli:  He has to do it in his own way ……on his own time!  You can’t “expect” an engagement or demand one just because you want one. If you feel that strongly about marrying him versus just getting a “proposal” and “ring” and changing your relationship status from “in a relationship” to “engaged” then why don’t you propose to him?! If not, then let off it and it will come in due time….when he is ready.

Post # 12
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777 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

No offense, but you’re fairly young, haven’t even been dating two years, have been talking about marriage from the beginning, and he’s been looking at rings. Things seem to be moving right along–why are you in such a big hurry? If you love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him, a few extra months before the proposal are not a big deal in the grand scheme of things. Don’t pressure him. Enjoy his company, do new things together, be extra sweet and attentive to him, and just let things take their course. Trust me, in a couple of years’ time when you’re married and are watching your friends being pressured into proposals/spaz out over unforthcoming rings, you will pat yourself on the back for being so chill. And your husband will have one more reason to consider himself exceptionally lucky.

 

Post # 13
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9718 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@mrssrm:  +1.  Great advice!

Post # 14
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124 posts
Blushing bee

@mrssrm:  +2 I really think the “you will pat yourself on the back for being so chill. And your husband will have one more reason to consider himself exceptionally lucky.” is the best bit of advice.

Huge motivational quote for this bee! Gonna write it in my journal lol 🙂 

Post # 15
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777 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Sunfire: , @raye9289:  

Aww, thanks ladies! Sunfire, that means a lot coming from you–I always love your take on things!

Post # 16
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1094 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

All the PP’s pretty much said it all, but that’s my advice too. Embrace your inner zen and give him all the reasons in the world to want to propose!  I see so many waiting bee’s getting depressed and moping and making their un-happiness obvious to their SO, but most men don’t know how to deal with that. It turns them off and makes them worry about the future.  But if you just pretend you’re already engaged, so to speak, and show him you love him and let your actions speak that you want to be with him forever, it’ll happen before you know it!  Of course, it’s easier said than done, but marriage (not to mention planning a wedding) takes patience and understanding, so consider this practice for what’s to come! 

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