(Closed) I’ll do it myyyyyyyy way.

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
6247 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

If it’s going to cause a family war then maybe inviting them wouldn’t be the worst thing.  If you are funding this wedding though, then adding a bunch of random relatives you never talk to can throw your budget outta whack.  Sometimes you just have to say no.


Post # 4
7777 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Meh. I’m in the “heck no” camp too because I was that way. My mother wanted to invite her old co-workers and her cousins that I’ve never met and a bunch of people I didn’t know and I totally put my foot down. She was even paying and I said no.

In the end, she was alright with it. It was a bit of drama for a while, but she didn’t even miss them the day of. I think for the older generations, it’s more about showing off or being worried about offending some random family member than it is actual want for them to be there. (For my mom, it was definitely the former.)

Post # 5
11418 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Who is paying for your wedding?

Post # 7
11418 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

If that is the case, you certainly are not required to ask those whom you do not wish to be there.  However, I can understand your mother wanting to have her aunts there.  Perhaps your mother would be willing to pay for these additional guests herself?


Post # 8
1542 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Miss Fossil:  Similar situation here (minus the pushing mom, kinda).

We’re paying for the wedding and have a huge (HUGE) family. We’re having a 250 guest event with 80% family (just aunts, uncles and cousins) and 20% CLOSEST friends. It’s our wedding and we had one rule: we have to know everyone attending the wedding.

I had a small laugh and a little heart attack when my parents attended a wedding a few months ago, who’s getting married? This friend of ours niece… Are you serious? you don’t even know here, what are you doing there? The uncle of the bride invited them!

Post # 10
391 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Miss Fossil:  Id just like to have people that are involved in our lives & who have ACTUALLY met Mr. Fossil

THIS!  My problem is that my parents are chipping in so I’m stuck even more.  I told my mom the other day that I want to celebrate with people who I see regularly and know both of us.  I shouldn’t be “meeting” people at my own wedding nor should I have to hear over and over again “OMG I remember you when you were THIS BIG!” 

Yeah, hi, who are you?

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