@OneOfTheseDaysAlice: Hinting at what you want can work for some girls.
The other alternative, is to make it clear to him, that if the time comes when he wants to go ring shopping, that you’d like to do it together… because (a) it is such a major purchase that will effect both your lives (b) you have to love it… as you’ll wear it the rest of your life (nothing worse than getting a ring you hate / doesn’t suit your hands … especially as it is expensive purchase, and in many cases NOT RETURNABLE)
Emphasis the EXPENSIVE part… NOT RETURNABLE, and he’ll no doubt be listening
Also, a lot of guys aren’t that familiar with jewellery, so they think that all rings are pretty much the same (it is a ring, period).
They sure as heck don’t get that not every ring out there is going to suit (or even fit) on everyone’s hand… they assume we all have the same size. AND they don’t tend to know much about Diamonds… so they can be quite vunerable to the Sales Staff and whatever it is that they want to push on them… one has to remember that the Sales Staff might have their own vested interests (working on commmission – Bonuses for selling a particular brand, design, etc)
I am an Encore Bride, first wedding was over 30 Years ago, even back then my Ex and I went out ring shopping together. That worked for us, we got something we could afford in a time when Inflation was out of control, and interest rates around 22% (30%+ for credit card purchases).
This time round… I told my very traditional Hubby-2-B that there was no way in H3LL he should take the risk of buying me a very expensive ring without my having tried it on… (in his mind an Engagement Ring was just a solitaire period… and the more money you had the bigger the diamond was… nice but not my style… I had a solitaire the first time round, I certainly didn’t want one again… too many memories).
I told him that going without me to at least look would be fool-hearty… kind of like me going out and buying him a very expensive 3 piece suit that he’d never tried on, and I wasn’t sure of his size or likes… but that he needed for an upcoming job interview. If the suit didn’t fit he’d be both uncomfortable, and unhappy… and it therefore could effect the job interview, as well as his ongoing prospects, or performance on the job. It was then he really understood.
In the end we got a nice cocktail style ring (my wish) with a feature diamond (his wish). And we are both very happy… lol, so much so that he often says “Hey have they seen your ring yet? You should show them the ring” He is one proud and happy man… he also likes to gush about our wedding plans as they are falling into place. It is really cute.