(Closed) I'll Never Say No To You….

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
1695 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

That sounds like an amazing shower.  I wasn’t a high expectation bride, but I would have loved such a lovely event. 

Post # 4
3078 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Holy crap.  That bridal shower sounds AWESOME!  I agree that your sister is being unrealistic about her guest count.  I hope that she is thankful for everything you are doing for her!  I think 30 people is a good sized list.

Post # 5
1158 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

That sounds very nice. My sister thought I was paying for a 70 person baby shower.she quickly came to her senses…lol

Post # 6
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

80 is a ton! I didn’t have any say over the invite list (except for FI’s family/friends)- my mom came up with it. I just made sure my one friend who isn’t in the bridal party was invited. My mom invited like 60 and 45 ended up coming.  It was ALOT (I didn’t know half the people – awkardddd when opening presents!) and it wasn’t cheap!

And your shower ideas sound awesome! If she doesn’t like that, I’m afraid nothing is going to make her happy! 

Post # 7
327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Canal St Inn

I would love to go to that shower! I’m sure she’ll love the book and all of the thought you’re putting into it, with 80 guests or 10.

Post # 8
55 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

That sounds amazing. 

Post # 9
2783 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t know your sister, so obviously don’t know her tastes, but that sounds absolutely lovely.

I particularly love the idea of the letters….my Maid/Matron of Honor did something very similar for us at our shower (we did a co-ed one), and it is my absolute favourite keepsake from the whole wedding process.

Also-those strawberries sound like heaven.

Post # 10
868 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

that sounds so lovely. i think 80 people is far far too many. 30 sounds great. the favors are perfect for a mad hatter theme

Post # 11
2023 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would love to have a shower like what youre describing.  30 individuals is very reasonable… Does she think that all 80 will attend?  Or is she inviting every female invited to the wedding?

Post # 13
2840 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

This sounds fabulous! Your sister should feel like a queen (but not the, “off with his head!” kind of queen).

Post # 15
3697 posts
Sugar bee

You are the hostess, you get to decide the size (and expense) of the party you’re throwing.

If you want, you can ask your sister to do a “must-invite” list and a “wish list,” so that if you get declines from the original 30, you can fill in the gaps?

80 people, though, for a shower, is pretty ridiculous. You definitely want to manage her expectations early on this one!

Post # 16
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Sounds wonderful… you have obviously put a lot of thought (and LOVE) into this… your sister should count her blessings !!

Back when I got married the first time (circa 1980)

And I was a fresh-faced University Grad with not much to my name… I had 3 showers.

The main event was the one with Relatives (and my Bridal Party) … a second that was with Neighbours & Friends of my Mother’s Social Circle… and one with the Church Ladies (a local custom)

They were all very different, and each had a very specific theme… one of which involved all the ladies bring me fancy tea-cups (your shower made me remember that one fondly).  The other two had different themes… one was Kitchen & Cooking (everyone had to bring a Recipe & a Cooking Utensil / Gadget)… and the third was Linens.

Honestly, if you Sis feels she needs to have more than one shower (snubbing too many people) … maybe she can find someone else to host a different type of shower.

But ya… 30 is about the max I’d say for any type of shower.

Hope this helps,

And again… a BIG PAT ON THE BACK TO YOU… this event truly sounds delightful.


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