Post # 16
- Wedding: February 2017 - The George, Christchurch
Wow i am lost for words. I am sorry you are losing a friendship, that is terrible, but it sounds like your BMX is being extremely difficult. I am always surprised to read stories about how Bridesmaid or Best Man act.
i have always known the bride to pick the hair style if they are paying for the hair to be done.
I have 1 matron of honour. After reading all the horror stories, i think this is going to save me stress (as well as $$$).
Post # 17
Wow. Just wow. I am sometimes the one going “take a step back and examine your own contributions to the situation” but this is well above and beyond. You have compromised on multiple occasions and she can’t even order a dress on time or at least say at that time “hey I can’t afford $129. Can you spot me the money and I’ll pay you back when I can?” I think this is a friendship I would let die…
Post # 19
Wow. My response would be “thanks, but don’t bother – you said you were done with both of us, so why wait till after the wedding. Good luck and goodbye.”
Post # 20
I don’t normally read such long posts but that was a great read — you are good writer! Sorry about Bridesmaid X, sounds very frustrating.
Post # 21
It honestly sounds like she didn’t want to do it from the beginning unless it’s all her decisions being made.
Total drama queen.. Sorry you had to deal with that bee.
Post # 22
Agree with PP. Make sure to tell her that you don’t need her in the wedding and to not bother with the dress. You got enough shit to deal with to add more to the mix. Sayonara BMX, you can roll out of this wedding.
Post # 23
Holy hell girl! You deserve 2 bottles not glasses of wine! And this kinda thing is exactly why I’m eloping. lol
ETA: I would make it clear to BMX that since she’s done with you after the wedding she can go ahead and get that started now. One less person to feed at the wedding.
Post # 24
I think you need to stop letting her steam roll you and you need to seriously put your foot down. You can be nice about it at first, but she is seriously a PITA and a brat. Here’s there deal Bridesmaid or Best Man X,
Dear Bridesmaid or Best Man X,
This is what you are wearing, this is how your hair is going to be, and this is who you are walking with. If you have any issues with that, you are more than welcome to come as a guest, in your own clothes, but you will not be walking down. IF you don’t have your dess by the day of the wedding, with alterations (if needed) you are still more tahn welcome to come as a guest, but you also won’t be walking. If this doesn’t work for you, I’m sorry, but tough, this is my wedding.
xoxo the bride.
Post # 25
I’d like to give you a silver lining response and tell you your post has helped me learn how NOT to be a bridesmaid. But honestly, this shit is bad, I can’t imagine doing anything like this to someone I’d call a friend (or anyone, for that matter)
Post # 26
But why say this? Anyone who tells me the second the wedding is over, she’s done with me isn’t going to be in my wedding at all!
OP, just tell her she’s finished now and not to waste her money on the dress. While I may have been a little bit on her side originally (you really flip-flopped about the dress in the first place), she’s gone beyond what is reasonable now and is clearly no friend of yours. Don’t let her ruin your memories and photos of the day by being present. Good riddance.
Post # 27
I should have mentioned that we have known each other since middle school. She’s well aware that a hoochie mama dress probably isn’t a great choice. But i definitely see your point. Yes why would I have somebody who detests me in my wedding???
Post # 28
I’m glad it can help somebody. While it’s totally fine to make requests this has been over the top lol
Post # 29
we think alike. I said something similar but she thinks I’m picking the dress and hairstyle to make them look uglier… Uh no??
Post # 30
hahahaha. That’s what I was thinking.. Yes fifty dollars!