Post # 1
Sorry – I just had to get that out there. My boyfriend is goign to drive me crazy. With absolutely no prompting, he’s always commenting like this
Boyfriend or Best Friend: “I love you”
Me: “awwww, I love you too”
Boyfriend or Best Friend: “forever and always”
He’s using all the lingo “when we”, etc. He does it constantly. “Your mine forever” – really ? I didn’t say yes yet, because he hasn’t asked. I get the impression he knows I’ll say yes, so he’s in no rush. I get the impression He’s taking his sweet time even though we’re going on 4 years dating, 10 years being friends.
Does anyone else feel that way? Boyfriend knows you love him and will stay around, so he’s taking his sweet time getting around the proposal?
I’m going to be 27 in a few weeks. I’d like to be married well before 30. It’s driving me nutz. Even though he’s saying it will happen sooner than I think.
Post # 3
@dragonlover:Oh yes. I think my guy has gotten a little comfortable and I’m pretty darn sure yours has too. Time to shake it up a bit!
Post # 4
@dragonlover: Oh mine does the same thing! Let’s see, I think last night it was along the lines of
Him: “I love you”
Me: “I love you too”
Him: “Are you going to be mine always?” or sometimes “Are you going to stay with me?” “Are you going to marry me?”
I don’t interpret this as thinking he can take his sweet time because he “has” me. I interpret this as wanting to reassure himself I’ll say yes when the time comes, checking that I’m happy and that I’m happy with him specifically.
Post # 5
My SO doesn’t really say things like what you’ve mentioned. We’re not really a romantic couple that talks about our feelings all the time – it comes out at special occasions and that’s about it lol!. But I do feel that he knows I’ll say yes – since there have been discussions and ring shopping ect., so there isn’t any rush to “lock me down” and propose. So I definitely feel like he’s taking his sweet time because he has nothing to worry about… Sometimes I think – well you know I’m going to say yes, so just do it already!
Post # 6
@dragonlover: We say EXACTLY the same things in EXACTLY the same way. Every single day, multiple times a day. We just hit the 4.5 year mark the other day.
So, needless to say…. I know how you feel! It’s like you love me, we live together… what are you waiting for? I’ve wondered the same thing myself, if he’s taking his sweet time because he knows he has me.
Guys feel pressure to propose, we feel pressure to wait. When to get engaged is literally the only issue my SO and I have. It’s not constant , but it’s still there. I agree with Beena – sometimes I just look at him and want to be like ‘just ask me to be your wife already! Come on man!’ haha.
Hopefully our waits won’t go on for too much longer! 🙂
Post # 7
I just can’t resist telling you bees this: for the two years while we were dating, I told then Boyfriend or Best Friend that I loved him (once I knew I did) and all he said back was THANK YOU! Thank you? I wanted to die! What was I supposed to make of that – that he felt lucky I loved him? But did he love me back, I wondered? Would he ever be ready for marriage? THIS is a man of few words! Then, by around 2 and a half years, he proposed, full out, ring and all! He was ready and the words flowed and have been flowing ever since. Men are from Mars (sometimes)… so go figure!
Post # 8
@JoeBeth12: haha. Sometimes he says “I love you” to me when I am distracted in the middle of something. My brain registers the words to process them later and I just respond something like “ok” “yup” as a placeholder. Usually he just starts to laugh at me and asks me if I heard what he said. I roll back the tape and usually manage to remember for a more appropriate response. At least it’s not always that though!