(Closed) I'm 19…how long do I have to wait???

posted 7 years ago in 20 Something
  • poll:
    You should date someone else first : (21 votes)
    5 %
    You should wait until after college : (291 votes)
    67 %
    You should wait at least a year or two : (89 votes)
    21 %
    You could get married now : (32 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    1460 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Until you graduate college, get a job, live on your own, can take care of yourself, have lived your life to fullest.

    Post # 4
    864 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Wait until you guys graduate and have jobs. Financial stress is a marriage killer.

    If your both happy it’s fine that you haven’t dated other people.

    Post # 5
    2651 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church

    Darling Husband and I never dated anyone else. We got engaged in September of our first year of college (I was just turned 18 and he was 19) and married almost 2 years later (I was 19 almost 20 and he was 20). We are now happily married. We’ve known each other since we were 6ish and 7ish and never dated anyone else. We were close friends for years. He started courting me when I was 17 and the rest is history.

    Post # 7
    1402 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I would definitely wait until you’re both financially independent from your parents.  Things will be much easier then.

    Post # 8
    1765 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Wait until you can financially support yourselves living on your own after college. You don’t want to start a marriage fighting about money! It doesn’t matter that you haven’t dated other people, as long as you’re both happy with it. If you’re going to be together for the rest of your lives, waiting a couple years isn’t too much of a big deal 🙂

    Post # 10
    9916 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I agree with others who recommend being financially independent before you get married.  It will be so much less stressful!  And really…there’s no reason to get married right away.  If you’re sure, you’re sure…and you can wait until you’re done with college.  Getting that out of the way will be a huge relief.  Also, if he cannot transfer to your school, you will be able to live together.

    Post # 11
    4047 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Finish your degrees and have a stable job and place to live. Then get hitched!

    Post # 12
    412 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I absolutely don’t think that you should date anyone else.  It sounds like you too are perfect for each other and it sounds like you are both happy so why give it up.

    Even though you are 19 you are still growing into your own person and so is he.  Is it possible that you guys could get married tomorrow and divorce in a year.  Absolutely.  I mean how often do people find their soulmates when they are barely teenagers.  Not often. 

    It sounds like you are one lucky lady to be living in a fairy tale.  It sound like you have a great relationship.  And if you believe that you can grow old with this guy then you will probably have a great marriage.  My got engaged just before her 20th birthday and married a year later.  She has been happily married for the last 7 years and they are definitly a couple that is going to last.  There is no doubt in my mind that they are in it for the long haul. 


    Post # 13
    757 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think so much of this depends on your community. It would be very lonely to be a college student and married, and not have other married or people who are in serious relationships that you can hang out with in a couple. If you have lots of friends who are getting engaged and married during college, then it might be a different story.

    Also, from my own experience most relationships that fall apart during college do so during Freshman or Sophomore year. Give it some time, and see how you are doing once you have fully adjusted to being away. You have only been in college for 2-3 months!

    Post # 14
    9544 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I don’t think that you need to date others before getting married but I do think you should both be out of school and living in the same city before getting married (really before getting engaged).

    Post # 15
    5118 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think it’s worth waiting a bit to be engaged/married, but don’t feel like you need to see other people to prove to others that you like each other best. That’s just silly.

    I voted for give it a year or so or wait until after college for practical reasons (money, growing into your education and career, finding a location to live based on job prospects, etc). I didn’t vote “get married now” simply because if you’re still being a bit bothered by people’s commentary or questioning internet folks for advice, it may not be quite time yet. My husband and I have been together since we were fifteen, so I get where you’re coming from, but I’d say give yourselves all the time in the world to enjoy these college years (as you’d wish, not the stereotypical “college expeirience” – make it your own!) and when the time is right, you two will find yourselves planning a wedding 🙂 

    Post # 16
    4304 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Personally, I’d wait until I was 25 or older.  I got married at 28.

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