(Closed) I'm 19…how long do I have to wait???

posted 7 years ago in 20 Something
  • poll:
    You should date someone else first : (21 votes)
    5 %
    You should wait until after college : (291 votes)
    67 %
    You should wait at least a year or two : (89 votes)
    21 %
    You could get married now : (32 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 78
    Member
    1150 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I have been dating my Fiance since we were sixteen. We went to school very close to each other and saw each other frequently, but we also had our own lives and our own friends. After we graduated, we moved in together, got jobs, and once we were financially stable he proposed. We’re 25 now.

    I don’t think you should get married now. Wait until you are done with college and are financially stable. As others said, finances are probably the biggest stressor in marriages. I don’t think you need to date other people- some of us are lucky and find the ones we are meant to be with when we’re young. That doesn’t mean that you have to get married right away. When we were 19, we both had a lot of growing up to do. We stuck together and grew together through that process, but I’m glad we didn’t get married when we were that young.

    Post # 79
    Member
    3181 posts
    Sugar bee

    This thread is a few months old but:

    1. No, you do not have to date around.

    2. I would suggest waiting until after college. You change a lot during the four years and if you still want to do it after college then go for it. A marriage is a lot less stressful when you’re not worried about finances and money all the time. Enjoy your time together before getting married.

    Post # 80
    Member
    336 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I’ve been with my guy since I was 19.. I’m 25 now. 
    We’re still together, and we’re engaged now (he proposed at 5.5 years).. but I can honestly tell you that I’m not the same person now that I was at 19. You grow and you change and you learn… My Fi and I grew up together  in a sense, but it wasn’t an easy transition. Your outlook on life changes, your opinions change, you change in general.. It’s just a matter of growing together and learning to adapt. 
    Liek I said, it was a struggle… So yea, considering that I’m a different person at 25 than I was at 19, I would say you should wait a few more years…  

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