(Closed) I'm 32, married, and a teacher…is it worth it to try being fashionable?

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
1181 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@peachacid:  have you tried differet types of tops, cardigans and tanks? Theres a lot of different styles that you can mix and match. Pairing cardigans with waist belts can help slim anyone, if placed properly. Try a find button down blouses that are flattering too. Theres so many different cuts out there, its just a matter of findig the one for your body. It gives the illusion of having a diverse wadrobe, when really its pretty much the same thing as wearing a sweater. 

* also try blazers. I know your a teacher and it may seem too formal, but there are less formal looking blazers out there. 


Post # 5
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think if it would make you feel a little better about yourself, you should. Even if it means switching it up with brightly colored cardigans/flats, and patterned scarves. Why do you like black pants so much? I personally love cream colored pants. Loft typically has pretty cute ones. I only shop there when they are having a 40% sale! 

I hate long necklaces on me. I think it is because my chest is so big. So I wear shorter statement necklaces. I bet if you look hard, you can find the right type for you! But if you prefer scarves, I would say go for some statement earrings/bracelets. 


Post # 6
166 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Haha, I’m a teacher too so I totally get it. I’ve been trying to spice things up this year with scarfs and different chunky necklaces, but for the most part I rock the teacher frump look while I’m at work. Heels? Um, no. Make-up? Forget it. I have one pair of cords that a coworker refers to as my “plant” pants because they are a very odd shade of brown/rust (and I teach biology). Sorry I have no advice, but just wanted to let you know that you’re not alone. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@peachacid:  Also, I personally think cardigans look awesome on people with smaller chests. 

Post # 8
522 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I feel you! It is SO HARD to be fashionable and work in a school, but it seems like other people pull it off without a hitch! I long to be well put together but just can’t manage it often. Part of my problem is that I make very little money (library clerk, woo!) and can’t really afford nice clothes. I have the opposite buttondown problem (too much up top), and definitely agree that that makes it difficult to shake up the wardrobe.

Post # 9
354 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think experimenting with some style is worth it *if* it makes you feel good. I am short and oddly shaped so I know what works well for me and what doesn’t. Personally I love statement jewelry because I might be too fat for peplum…but I can’t be too fat for jewelry! Usually if I’m trying something different i’ll look for cheap throwaway peices from Target/Forever21/etc so its not an investment if I hate it – and then I will invest in nicer pieces elsewhere if I like it. I like Target’s clothes in general. i have tons of their cardigans, tanks, and dresses. Lots of basics in different colors to mix and match. For nicer stuff I like Loft and Limited and sometimes NY and Co.

Personally I cannot wear button down shirts (boob gap!) and the belt over cardigan thing makes me look super fat. I like pencil skirts and sheath style dresses best. I rarely wear pants to work anymore.

However, if fashion isn’t something you care about or are interested in…who cares! Especially workwise. I don’t have anyone to impress at work. I am married. So I need to be clean, neat, and put together and look professional…yes…but I work for the govt, not Vogue ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
1163 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@peachacid:  I also wished people would nominate me for What Not To Wear…not for the money, but for the fashion advice!!!

Have you tried going on Pinterest? Maybe that will inspire you for some ideas, and bonus if you can use some pieces from your existing wardrobe 

Post # 11
1748 posts
Bumble bee

I’m taken aback that you refer to yourself as round like a bowling ball.I think it is always worth the effort to be fashionable. Google the girl off of that show Ugly Betty, she is full figured but I think she is adorable.

Post # 14
2807 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

fashionable means different things to different people.

i think that looking “put together” is more important than wearing what’s in fashion at the moment. classic clothes are much better than what’s newly fashionable. a nice pair of tailored pants and a nice sweater is never a bad option.

and cardigans don’t have to be buttoned. i rarely button mine (after having a huge chest for years, i learned to just let them flow). i love a simple camisole/tank top in a solid color with a pretty cardigan. add a pair of pants, and there’s an outfit. or a skirt, or even a shift dress (or wrap dress).

wear what’s comfortable, and what suits the occasion.

Post # 15
556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I seriously doubt that necklaces look weird on you. ๐Ÿ™‚ And lol, I’ve never heard someone say that they smell funny. I wouldn’t go from wearing no jewelry to a statement necklace, but I think a little jewelry can go a long way. It’s funny how often my students, especially my little boys, admire my jewelry. Get yourself some staples–a nice pair of sterling silver hoops, some studes, a few pretty pendants on a comfy snake chain, etc. I like scarves, but scarves every day surely would make you look frumpy and stuck in a rut. You are too young to be in a rut. Then I would say look around your home and figure out what colors you decorate with that make you happy. Incorporate more color into you wardrobe. Make sure that everything fits your body. Play up the features you like about yourself. 

Post # 16
1846 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@peachacid:  Your enthusiastic description is making me laugh, I’m sorry ๐Ÿ™‚ I feel the same way most days (but I’m working on it!) I have short fat legs and a round belly, but I do have boobs. I also have that weird hip indent, so skirts don’t look right. 

My go-to outfit is a dress (casual), an open cardy or blazer and usually a belt with ballet flats. 

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