(Closed) I'm 32, married, and a teacher…is it worth it to try being fashionable?

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Post # 92
3229 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@peachacid:  Sorry I do not have any suggestions for you but I had to comment after you made yourself sound like a bowling ball but the pictures show this nice bod.  Honey, love yourself more.  You look good in the outfit posted.  You can wear ANYTHING you like.  Work on your self-esteem and you can pull off anything.

Post # 93
1228 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

First off, there’s nothing wrong with your body and I’m sure you’re pretty.  And I’m sure you can teach young girls to feel confident. 

Ok, fashion time. All the bees here offered super advice, but its “advanced fashion”. It’s calculus for someone who maybe hasn’t mastered algebra. My number one advice is colourful tops.  You can keep the same pants, but dont wear monochrome black/brown/blue/gray. As soon as you throw on a colorful top, it’s instantly a mood lifter and a little more fashionable. My second favorite (and a little more complicated, like trig) is to wear flats in winter. You wear the ugly boots to work, then take them off and slip into some cute flats. You can wear them with  trouser stockings but I’ve gone sock-free at the office all winter! And cheap flats are 10-20$. 




Post # 94
8036 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Try getting things tailored. All the magazines recommend it. Say something sorta fits or almost fits, a tailor can make it look fabulous. It’s not ridiculously expensive either.

Post # 95
330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Whoaaaaa first of all your description of yourself was so not accurate.  Cut yourself some slack!  You have a great body shape!  Everyone’a body is unique hence we all need to dress differently. I have big hips and struggle finding cardigans that fit well just cause they make me look bigger than my actual size.  I use accessories, such as belts to wrap around the thinnest part of my waist, to make it seem like I have an hour glass.  

My sister has a stick shape as well but found some awesome items.  try wearing a casual blazers with a single button that flares out at the bottom.  Before you rule out skirts and dresses try wearing a pencil skirt with a loose shirt.  They can emphasize on your skinniest part while giving off the impression of an hour shape glass.

if you like skinny pants but feel like it might not look too well then try wearing hiding boots with it.  Honestly my sister’s leg looks big in skinny pants but the moment she puts on riding boots with it I’m like ‘damn… she looks trendy’

Post # 96
123 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Wardrobe Oxygen is a good blog- but I agree with you that she’s pretty formal.  Here are a few others I like who tend to dress more casually: 





Post # 97
772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Dalhousie Castle

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@peachacid:  I just went back and read all your comments. You’ve shot down almost all the suggestions given to you without even trying. It seems like your determined to be negative about yourself. Why was the point of this post? 

It sounds more like you need therapy to help your self esteem than fashion advice.

Post # 98
923 posts
Busy bee

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@peachacid:  okay first of all there is nothing wrong with your body, you just have no idea how to dress it. I’m not trying to be mean, just honest. first off I suggest buying some better bras, I know you don’t have much up top, but a good support system will help things look better I promise. then buy some boot cut or skinny pants, straight leg is doing nothing for your figure. I have full hips and thighs and I can’t wear straight leg styles either, they make my thighs look giant. buy pants with a higher rise, so they don’t cut you off at a weird place and try pencil skirts, they literally look good on everyone. the ones at j crew are a straighter fit ( not very tapered in the waist) try bananna republic for dresses, they have cute comfy stuff that is nearly always on sale. you can wear a belt and you can wear an open cardigan, or a belted one. just find a belt you like, i would suggest something 1 1/2-2 inches thick, it will define your waist better. also work on your posture! it will help you not feeel so round, I promise!

Post # 99
3363 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

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@AnotherMrsBrown:  +1

Ive never heard of adult co-workers making fun of someone for wearing boots outside and changing to flats indoors.  Do you honestly think people watch you that closely?



Post # 100
772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Dalhousie Castle

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@heathaah:  Yeah, she’s either got the meanest coworkers in the world or its just in her head/ attention seeking. Plus it’s a waste of everyone’s time that bothered to write something.


Post # 101
2076 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

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@peachacid:  Hi! We have similar body types; I have wide hips and huge bum for an Asian. 🙁 I’ll be 30 weeks before the wedding. I’m short as well. 5′ 2.5″.

If you were to go onto ASOS.com and enter your measurements, the online store’s algorithm will only show you dresses/pants/clothing that fit. (Likewise, you don’t have to buy from them — just get an idea)

I swear by A-line dresses AND tummy-control dresses. Tummy control dresses are usually found from Cleo and Marks Wearhouse.

My go to places for clothing are: Cleo, Banana Republic and a handful other online retailers like Modcloth and Unique-Vintage. Pretty much anywhere that has a petite section is where I’ll shop! (Laura Petites is great too, but non-sale items are more expensive.)

For pants though, I usually go to Reitmans because they have a stretchy top (no zippers). (Just make sure you buy one smaller than your regular size as they do stretch out over time)


Have you tried wearing a wrap dress? Or sheath dresses? I find they’re very flattering on pear-shaped body types. (They will make you look taller and slimmer) I’ll have a look around the website and let you know what I would pick for my body type.

This would probably fall longer on you than it will on the model
Banana Republic – Floral Jacquard Sheath (in Teal)

This dress would be super duper cute with a short waist cardigan — the ones you already own.

I mirror PPs about wearing longer cardigan that covers your bum when you’re wearing shorter tops. It’s all about giving your body a dimension. Layering clothing in the right proportions is my secret. 🙂 It took a lot of trials and errors.

Likewise, I always ditch the belt as well.

The only type of clothing I never buy online is pants. I’m really picky about the length and fit.

For skirts, my go-to are usually pencil skirts or a flounce skirt.

As far as necklaces go, my usual go-to are pearl strands. Pearls practically go with anything. 🙂

Hope that helps!


Post # 104
378 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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@peachacid:  I struggle with this too!  I used to not know what kind of pants to wear with boots vs ballet flats.  Like, do I have some hemmed to flats, and some hemmed to my chunky dansko like shoes?  Haha.

now, I just wear flats, or a chunky 2 inch heel with skinny jeans.  I find that skinny jeans look better with a longer top or something with more volume on the top to balance out my large ass.  Lol.  I’ll try to keep this thread in my kind and take some pictures next time I have a good teacher outfit to share.  I know a lot of teachers have this problem!

…and OMG, you are not round or have fat legs!  I wanna slap you.  I wear scarves all the time, and I’m okay with it!

Post # 105
47451 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@peachacid:  As Judge Judy would say,”You need to put on your listening ears.”

If something doesn’t fit, it’s usually that it doesn’t fit in one area. Many of us are bigger in the hips so we have to buy pants that fit our hips. That often means the waist doesn’t fit- it’s too big. That means the waist needsto be tailored.

You need to buy a dress that fits your hips and have the top taken in. Ditto with a pencil skirt. Buy the size you need for your hips and have the waist taken in.

You don’t really think that many of us can wear clothes right off the hanger,do you?

If you are a good home sewer, you can do many alterations yourself but some are best left to professionals.

Post # 106
2076 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

Pencil skirts are tight on me too — I can’t run for the bus in them. It takes a bit of trying here and there to find something comfortable enough. I used to discount pencil skirts too until I found one for $10 from RW & Co. (RW & Co. has a lot of nice outfits for teachers)

I find white tops are the most versatile for me — or any sleeveless tops, that I can wear with a cardigan or a blazer.

Examples (from Laura Petites)
Pearl Neck Elastic Hem – $39.99 CAD
This particular one — you won’t need a necklace at all!

A polka-dotted printed top, in your size, is a nice way to distract from an apple or pear-shaped belly:
(Link provided on picture)

Then, for cardigans, I find that the ones with just enough texture and no buttons work best for adding layers:
(I own something like this, but it was from Cleo Petites.)

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