(Closed) I’m 5’4 my fiance is 5’7.. is it ok to be taller that him on the wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Shoes
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It’s okay if you’re comfortable with it!  I’m about 2.5 inches shorter than my Fiance when we’re barefoot.  I opted for flats, but that was for comfort and not height.

Post # 4
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8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@AliaH:  You need to ask him that.

As long as you and he are both ok with it, then it’s fine. But if he is uncomfortable with it, then you probably shouldn’t wear shoes that make you taller than him.

Post # 5
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183 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree with the other posts. If you are both comfortable, go for it. I wouldn’t be comfortable with it because I would worry about the pictures looking “off” because the man is generally taller, but that is just a personal preference. My husband and I have a similar height difference, and I stick with flats or low heels, especially for pictures. 

Post # 6
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130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You shouldn’t do it.  3″ is high enough.

I don’t think you should even ask him.  Sorry, but a 5’7″ guy in the US is definitely going to be sensitive about his height.

There are enough things to stress about when preparing for a wedding.  This is not one of the important ones.

Post # 7
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478 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think I would make sure he is comfortable with it too.  Some guys just don’t like it. 

Post # 8
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2697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You should ask him. I’m a smidge taller than my Fiance in my wedding boots (I’m 5’7”, he’s 5’9”) and he’s thinking of finding boots as well so that he can be taller than me.

Post # 9
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2158 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It’s entirely your preference as a couple. If you are okay with it and if he is okay with it then it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Well, I’m 5’9″ and Fiance is 5’8″, so we don’t really have an option hahaha. I think you should do whatever makes the both of you the most comfortable 🙂

Post # 11
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175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

If he is comfortable with it sure. If you’re concerned you’ll look funny being taller, that isn’t something people are going to notice the day of or in photos. 

 

Post # 12
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1934 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m a good 2 inches taller than my fiance with bare feet.  He’s only 5’7, I’m 5’9.  I’m wearing 2.5” heels.  He doesn’t care.  I don’t care.  We are who we are.  And we’re comfortable with that.

Just make sure he’s comfortable with it.

Post # 13
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688 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

As long as you both are okay with it it’s fine. He can alwasy get man platforms though- they’re these sole inserts a guy puts in his shoe to gain a few nches. My Fiance is going ot do it, since my heels make me taller than him and our moms freaked out. I think you can get them on Amazon.

Post # 14
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267 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m 5’6″, my Fiance is 5’8″. He bought me the 3″ heels that I wanted to wear for the wedding. I’d assume he’s OK with it!

Who cares if you’re taller than him in photos–as long as you both look and feel happy, nobody will even notice.

Post # 15
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452 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

He looks more than three inches taller than you?  Go with what your both comfortable with. 

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper

As the PP mentioned that is up to your Fiance. I will be three inches taller than my Fiance on our wedding day (and every day for that matter) with heels. He has no issue with this whatsoever.

Some men are bothered by this and become insecure. My cousin’s Fiance demanded that taller woman were short heels as bridesmaids in her wedding so as to not compete with him.

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