(Closed) “I’m 88% sure he’s the one”

posted 10 years ago in 30 Something
  • poll: How sure are you he's the one?

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  • Post # 47
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

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    @mountain.bride:

    I feel the exact same way!!

    Post # 48
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I don’t believe in “the one” either.  but I know that my Fiance is the best fit I’ve found, and that since I’ve started dating him I haven’t wanted to try on anything else.

    I know that he loves me, and I love him, and I know that we can continue to CHOOSE to love each other.  I think that’s what makes people “the one.”  to continually choose to love each other.

    Post # 49
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’m with the others who don’t believe in the concept of “the one”. I choose my husband again and again every day, knowing full well that I could break my vow to him and find someone else who is maybe more patient, a better cook, taller, whatever. I instead decide to honor the commitment I made to him in faith and love. I find that WAY more romantic than the idea than he was chosen for me, and that we “have” to be together because the Universe made it that way.

    I am 100% sure I am doing the right thing by being with him rather than seeing what other “ones” are out there, though. And it does help that he totally believes we were meant to be together. That dose of “fate” in our relationship balances out my rationalism!

    Post # 50
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    100% There is no one else i could imagine spending my life with. i have been 88% on prior boyfriends but shortly after i started dating Fiance i knew for sure he was the one for me. 🙂

    Post # 51
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    99.9%    Nothing is ever 100%.

    Post # 52
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

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    @mountain.bride:  I agree whole-heartedly.  I could have married most of the guys I have dated, all but one have been terrific men.  I think I have a much deeper connection and a stronger companionship with my Fiance … he has made me strive to be a better person and has been such a support which has me.  Romance comes and goes, it’s the companionship that makes a marriage last.

    Post # 53
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I said 100% sure, but lately I don’t believe in The One. It’s not because I’m dissappointed with our relationship in any way. Au contraire! I wouldn’t say he’s my soul mate because, we could let our relationship fail. We could. But it wouldn’t necessarily be fate or anything else, it would be us. Do I believe fate brought us together? Yes. Do I believe fate keeps us together? NO.

    We actually talked about this the other day. We believe God brought us together and we are supposed to be together.. but that doesn’t mean God won’t make us work for it.

    Post # 54
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I didn’t vote, but I’m 100% getting married to the man that I can share the rest of my life with.  I don’t believe there is “the one” either.  People (while we are all dating before our FI) can feel that one person may be 100% “the one” but the other person may not feel the same way, and then things don’t work.  I also think that some people can think that there is always better, or the grass is greener on the other side.  Again, I don’t believe in “The One” but I found someone who I can spend the rest of my life.  @Leahh,  I feel that God brought us together also and together we will be a better person with each other. :o)

    Post # 55
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I’m 100% sure that he’s the person for me. Don’t know if that means he’s “the one”, that’s a little hollywood for me.

    Post # 56
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I have been 110% sure he’s the one for me since we’ve started dating.

    And yes, I did say “THE ONE”.  Because I’d rather not have the second. 🙂

    Post # 57
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I was 100% sure that my first love was “the one”.  Needless to say that relationship didn’t work out and I didn’t get a proposal like I thought I was going to.  11 years later and I am with my Fiance who I am happy with but out of all the relationships that I thought I was with “the one” and I wasn’t, I’ve realized that nothing is 100% sure.  I’m happy and content knowing that I love my Fiance and he loves me and we will get married but I don’t know what the future holds for us.  I will take life 1 day at a time and hope that we have a tomorrow together but life is pretty unpredictable.  While I don’t think I will find someone else nor am I planning on finding anyone else and I don’t believe he is looking or will find someone else people change as they grow.  That’s why other relationships didn’t work out previously.  I guess what I’m trying to say is that only time will tell if we grow stronger or grow apart but I certainly hope that we only grow stronger.

    Post # 58
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    My Fiance and I have been together for nine years.  We are already married in our hearts, just not on paper yet.   Our lives are peaceful, sometimes we are grumpy, there is barely any passion anymore, and I know him better than he knows himself  (he still has a bit to learn about me). There are days when I wish I could have a fairy tale romance full of passion and a guy who is sensitive to my every need, but at the end of the day I know that doesn’t exist and what I have is real.  I trust him completely and he is my favourite person to hang with.  that should be enough shouldn’t it?

    Post # 59
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I am 100% sure it was meant to be 🙂

    Post # 60
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2019 - Paris, France

    I am 100% sure he is the one RIGHT NOW. Does that mean something drastic won’t happen..he won’t get deployed and come back with PTSD and be a totally different person? no. <


    really scares me sometimes. I also share the belief that with enough work, trust, respect and love that is mutual.. anyone can be the one. But what I do know is that I have never felt so in sync with anyone in my life..never so open, honest, in love. 

    Post # 61
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

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    @mountain.bride:

     

    I agree with your statement. Totally. I believe in your life time you meet the “one” when you need to. Might be only THAT one, but you will =)

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