- 8 years ago
I NEED HELP! 🙂 I’m sorry in advance for the length, I’m in a bit of a bind and need to explain the WHY and HOW.
My fiance and his buddy are having a joint bachelor weekend party – they are in each other’s wedding and have the same group of friends. Since I’m also a bridesmaid in the wedding, I’m working on putting together a Bachelorette party for the bride (we have different friends, so the whole joint party thing for us was not in the works).
The bride told me recently in confidence that her Maid/Matron of Honor has really been a let down. For starters, we are less than 60 days until the wedding and nothing had been planned. Reason being the MOH told me back in April she wanted to handle it all herself, didn’t, and now that I’ve stepped up she wants input (fine, whatevs.) However, she also doesn’t know how much money she can contribute and wrote today in an email to me “I’ve never been to a Bachelorette and have no idea how to throw one.” Oooooooooooooooookay. Maybe you shouldn’t have declined to let me help you a few months ago?? I’ll stop being catty now.
So, in her lack of planning/knowledge, she brought up the concept of doing a slumber party AT THE BRIDE’S HOUSE – which mind you, this is 7 days before her wedding date. I nixed that and said that she will be stressed out enough, having a party at her own house will not be fun or relaxing – and then graciously offered up mine (MOH said her house was a no go since her husband would be home)
I’m just going to be honest – it’s totally NOT what I would have had planned for her. I think this idea from the MOH was based on her wanting to save money and keep it small for cost reasons alone coupled with her lack of knowing what to do and how.
When I discussed things with the bride a week ago, she came up with about 6 or 7 people total. The bride is generally quiet, low key and doesn’t have a huge group of close girlfriends – so I get why this might actually work on some level. On the flip side, I’m a little sad that they don’t really want to go OUT – not even to dinner. I feel like it’s going to be a little on the lame side (which again, might be because I love to party and if it were ME I’d want to go OUUUUTTTTT) Most of us girls don’t even really knwo each other, so I’m dreading the idea of an awkward night spent in front of a TV.
So what is on the drawing board now is that this will be a slumber party style night, held at my house – since it’s pretty large, we have guest rooms and my Fiance will be away for the entire time.
If we did that, my only good idea was to throw a Sex in the City and a Lingerie Party – We’d do the whole, drink Cosmos, watch the show and movie thing and have the ladies bring her something sexy! I’ve actually thrown one of these before (minus the lingerie) and it was a blast – which is also a bonus because I still have some of the things I used. We have a huge flat screen with a big sectional, so everyone could sunggle in and watch. The cons are the awkward TV watching, the concept being a little played out, and the fact that while she likes the show, she has only seen a few episodes here and there.
My other idea is to trump the Maid/Matron of Honor and plan a party where we DO stay at my house but we go out. I happen to live nearby (5 min, tops) a very large tribal casino where they are staying on their wedding night / doing their afterparty. It’s a pretty popular place to hang out if you live up here, since we are too far from Seattle to go out down there without getting a hotel room. So, I could pull together a great home cooked spaghetti dinner, caesar salads, wine and keep that low cost – plan some getting to knwo you, social games for everyone – THEN cab it over to the casino for the night. I know for a fact we could pull off a totally silly, but fun scavenger hunt over there, they have a nightclub and another ultra hip lounge. Nothing too crazy or scandalous – and since it’s far from a meat market or super crowded, it could work.
So vote above, give me another idea, give opinions, disagree – I want to hear it all! Low-key girls – what would YOU want to do? What are ways to save money on this?
HELP PLEEEEEEASE! 🙂