(Closed) I’m a Bridesmaid, and I Need to VENT!!!!!!!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Wow. I can’t believe she didn’t talk to you and stuck you with all that work! I did all my crafts myself….nobody cares as much about my wedding as me, you know? Especially people with serious full time jobs. Maybe you could find a nice way to talk to her about this? That way it won’t weigh your relationship down.

Post # 4
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2907 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Birdie Love: Noooo ๐Ÿ™ That really blows. I’m sorry! You should tell her that it hurt to find out that way, but that you are still really excited for her and can’t wait for the wedding.

That gives her a chance to say something a later point, but not put pressure on her right then.

 

 

EDIT: Even still, that’s terrible.

Post # 5
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6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I don’t want to vent on your vent thread…but I feel your pain, sister. The advice I’ve gotten is to quit offering to help and to do things, which completely goes against my nature (and it sounds like yours, too). I haven’t gotten to the point where I’m going to say anything because I’m a wimp, but I think it’s fair in your position to speak to her. ๐Ÿ™ I’m sorry you’re going through this!

Post # 6
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3295 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

awww thats not right! she is lucky to have you… my Maid/Matron of Honor hasnt helped with one thing! ๐Ÿ™ thats just makes me sad…. you can come be my Maid/Matron of Honor…. ill even put it in the program!! lol

Post # 7
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2154 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Oh, no! That’s terrible. I’m sorry she’s not treating you very well. Make sure you tell her when you don’t have time for things, or are unavailable to help. A good friend should understand that you’ve got a life outside her wedding.

Post # 8
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241 posts
Helper bee

Weird she did that but if you were just a bridesmaid, would you have not done these things?

Post # 9
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384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I feel your pain date twin.  ๐Ÿ™‚  I was in the same position in a friend’s wedding, but at least she told me that her sister would be Maid/Matron of Honor and I would be honorary Maid/Matron of Honor.  Basically that meant that like you, I got to do all the work of an Maid/Matron of Honor without the title or attention.  I honestly don’t know how you’re doing all this with your own wedding 45 days away. 

Props to you. 

Post # 10
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9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Personally I am a very upfront person and I would definitely bring it up. I would say “Its weird  I thought I was the Maid/Matron of Honor.. I guess I must have misunderstood you when you asked me”

Post # 11
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3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Now that’s pretty damn low! I wouldn’t be able to hold onto that until after the wedding. It would be different if she didn’t ASK you to be the Maid/Matron of Honor and you didn’t accept. Now it’s like she asked just so that she could get you to do most of the work for her only to pull a bait and switch in the end. I wouldn’t be able to do another arts and crafts project or wedding related project for her until we had it out. 

Post # 14
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1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

If shes a good friend wouldnt you have helped anyway even if you knew you werent MOH? Im sure it wasnt a slight to you, sometimes there are family politics. Dont let it get you down ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 16
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5106 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Birdie Love: I feel like the real punch in the gut was also that she didn’t have the balls to tell you up front that you were a bridesmaid and not the Maid/Matron of Honor.

As a woman who is VERY honest with her friends, I expect the same respect. Damn. I would be pissed too. Not to mention YOU are also trying to plan your own wedding.

Do you think she also did it so that you would help more?

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