- Birdie Love
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
I am in a wedding this weekend. My friend several months ago asked me if I would be her Maid of Honor. I accepted enthusiastically. Since then, I have helped with favors, searching for Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, helping with the decorations for the reception, throwing her a shower, doing the signs for all the reception tables, her card box and I even offered to pick up snacks the morning of the wedding for her and the other BM’s since we’re meeting several hours before the afternoon. I have given her my ear to bend, my shoulder to cry on and my insight.
Today I learned, via the timeline of the wedding day that she sent me, that her 16-year old sister is actually the MOH!!!!! WTF!?!?!?!?!
Okay. I know it’s just a title. And her sister is a teen and lives in another country, so it is pretty much impossible for her to help with anything simply based on geography and finances. Her other Bridesmaid or Best Man lives out of the country as well and has never, never, ever offered to help with anything (that could feasibly be done on her end).
So, I am still up to my neck in crafts for my friend’s wedding (did I mention I sometimes work 40+ hours a week and planning my own wedding while balancing everything else in life? And my friend works, oh 10 hours a week, but has procrastinated like crazy these past few months).
I could totally imagine that my friend’s mother (who is paying for all of their wedding) telling my friend that “sisters are always MOHs,” so why would anyone else get that title. And you know what? I would have been totally cool if she had come to me and explained that to me. Because it really is just a title. But did I have to find out on a damn timeline??
I think at this point I am feeling a bit like I have been taken advantage of or my work hasn’t been and won’t be fully appreciated (my FH says I am bordering on being almost like a paid consultant for their wedding I have done so much).
I doubt I will say anything to her at this point, but I may say something AFTER the wedding. I have also decided I am NOT going to get the snacks for the morning of the wedding. Yup, that’s kind of petty, but my friend is off all this week, she has family and friends in town that can help her.
So, thank you for letting me vent. In the grand scheme of things, it really isn’t a big deal and there are far greater issues in the world. Now excuse me, I need to get back to painting table signs!