(Closed) I’m a bridesmaid and want to drop out of wedding.

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Of course! I probably would have dropped out for less!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think it’s worth a shot to talk to them, but if it doesn’t work, then just drop out. She punched you in the stomach? What a freak.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA

PUNCHED IN THE STOMACH?!?!  I can’t even imagine something like that at a bachelorette party!  If I were you I’d run for the hills.  No-one deserves to be treated like that.  And that is just ridiculous of the bride to let that happen and still expect you and the Maid/Matron of Honor to be in the wedding party.  If you drop out of the wedding, the bride may want nothing to do with you in the future.  Is this a friendship you’re prepared to walk away from?  If so, I say do it!

 

Good luck!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Im sorry, PUNCHED?!!  Did you write Punched?  Omg, did you knock her the EFF out?

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper

in most cases, i would say suck it up a bit even if its not tht fun, and i would say talk to the bride about finances if you feel you are spending too much.  because really you should only be required to get a dress.  shoes, hair, makeup, hotels, all that should be optional unless the bride pays.  

BUT my mouth dropped open about the Maid/Matron of Honor punching you!!!!!!  that is so unbelievably unacceptable, there are no words to describe!  and if i were the bride, i would be inclined to fire the MOH!  so ya, i think saying you have an “excuse” to drop out is putting it mildly!  

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@CaliGirl4: Weddings tend to bring out the drama in everyone. If it’s just the other girls you are having an issue I wouldn’t drop out at this point.

Shockingly, everyone usually gets along come the wedding day. I was a Maid/Matron of Honor and had an issue with one of the bridesmaids or rather she had an issue with me, but if you look at the photos from the wedding we look like best friends.

Explain to the bride that you feel uncomfortable spending the night with the other girls and that you’ll just join her in the morning and how excited you are to share her day with her!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

If you were punched, I would let the bride know and drop out.   If the bride seems supportive and lays down the law, I would stick with it for her sake.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Absolutely you can drop out.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Franciscan Gardens

Omigoodness! I would have dropped out immediately after the punch! Write a nice note to the bride and say that you love her as a friend but that after the bachelorette party, you no longer feel that your are welcome in the bridal party and that you dont’ feel that you can be around the maid of honor without feeling threatened. Tell her that you would still love to attend the wedding but don’t feel that you can continue on in the bridal party. If she doesn’t understand, then she’s not a very good friend.

Post # 12
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Worker bee

You are a bigger person than me if you even want to talk to her about it. I would file for assault and stop returning phone calls.

Dropping out will probably affect your friendship with the bride, but staying in and resenting her for it will too. I agree with frugalfiance.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper

@Miss. Flutterby: i have to disagree. i dont think that anyone should have to put themselves in a situation where they are in close contact with someone who punched them.  the bride should be happy if you decide to attend her wedding as a guest at this point.

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Honestly I would talk to the Bride first about your feelings and go from there. Let her know you are uncomfortable due to what happened at the bach party. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

Did you punch her back? Seriously what a fricken Bizzo! I would just drop out. Especially if the bride seems to care about you so little.

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