(Closed) I’m a bridesmaid in a dilemma :(

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2052 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@sweetpea2011: I think you should call her and not rely on email or Facebook or text to get your sentiments across. Let her know gently that you really would like to be a part of the bachelorette weekend but in light of other expenses you just can’t manage the cost. Tell her that you care about her and really want to do what you can despite the distance and that you can’t wait to support her on the wedding day itself, too. I think if she hears your voice and your tone she’ll understand your sincerity. As for feeling sad about the way she asked you, I think you should move on from that. She asked you when she could have asked anyone else in the world and even though it was by Facebook, she still made a point to reach out to you. Let that part roll off your back. Good luck!

Post # 4
1995 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Look just be honest with her about the financial stuff.  Just because she asked you weirdly you shouldn’t feel left out.  People get awkward about these things – maybe she thought it’d come out better.  She may not even know you feel weird about things.  If it were me I’d just truck along and appologize you can’t make it to the bachlorette and send a mini gift w/a friend or cash for 1 drink or give her a call that night to say hi.  Just show up for her wedding, be happy for her on her big day and enjoy the party. 

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