(Closed) I’m a bridezilla , aren’t I?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

It sounds like it was what you needed to do to be happy and move on.

The truth is… at the slighest things we get called Bridezillas now… no worries.

Post # 4
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825 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I don’t think you were wrong at all. She had plenty of chances to step up or take part and she didn’t. I think it’s normal sometimes not to speak with BM’s if you’re not that close anymore, but say you had to have them in there, like a cousin or an old friend. The only thing is, did she pay for her dress already? If so, that would be kinda bad for you to have her out. Also, are you still inviting her to the wedding. I wonder if that will be awkward….I’m glad you feel better though, you don’t need any extra stress! It’s not worth it:)

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

You are going to get mixed reviews on this.

I kicked one out and I do not feel bad. There is no law you have to keep someone because you asked. People can say its proper etiquette etc but in reality its your wedding and by reading what you have said this will make things run smoother and less stress for you. Who cares if people want to say Bridezilla. I got called a Bridezilla for asking a question about my husbands bachelor party. For something like that? I just laugh when people say the word Bridezilla because its used for everything now.

 

Post # 6
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277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It’s not that bad.  It sounds like your bridesmaid that called her agreed that she shouldn’t be involved anymore.  I feel that since it doesn’t sound like you wanted to keep that friendship anyway, you have a right to remove her from the party if she was causing you stress and not making any effort. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

In a word, yes.  It sounds like maybe it was best for everyone for this girl to step down.. but you absolutely should have had the conversation with her yourself.  How would you feel if you were her?  I think you need to call her and apologize for the way things were handled.  Yes she may have been MIA during your planning but nothing that you described justifies treating her the way you did.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

By the way you having a bridesmaid feel her out is not wrong. Its not easy to tell someone umm I really dont want you here.

Did your friend ask her to step down or did your bridesmaid get the impression she wanted out anyway? You said you didnt get a straight answer but how is it left she is out?

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

Just because something isn’t easy doesn’t mean it’s not the right thing to do.  Having your bridesmaid make the call was wrong. Period.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I don’t think you were wrong for having her step down, as long as she hasn’t incurred any financial loss due to her being a Bridesmaid or Best Man during this time. 

However, I do think it is kinda low that you didn’t have the conversation with her yourself.  I’d be pretty upset if I were in her shoes and I would think that your actions were somewhat immature, especially if you hadn’t talked to her about her lack of involvement in the past and this came out of left field for her.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I don’t think that it was wrong to boot her from the bridal party, but you should’ve done it yourself.

Post # 14
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1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

If she does have any issues returning the dress, you should offer to pay for it.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

You do not sound like a bridezilla at alL!!!

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