(Closed) I’m a compulsive eater…sometimes, help bees..I reeealy want to lose the

posted 7 years ago in Fitness
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Congratulations on your weight loss, and I’m sorry you’re currently struggling with it. You seem to have a solid workout routine that you’re sticking to, so maybe work on curbing the snacks gradually (instead of cutting it all of and feeling deprived). So instead of ‘free weekends,’ maybe promise yourself to have a healthy lunch and if you do, then you can enjoy the night out for dinner.

One thing that really helped me was cutting out the snack foods I kept at home. When they’re not there, and it’s mindless eating, you don’t put forth the effort to go get them, you just find something else to do instead. 

Like you said, you know what it is you should do, it’s just hard to do it. I think that an OEA meeting would not be judgmental towards you, I would assume they strive for a safe environment. Or perhaps meet with a counselor if you think your issues with food are deeper, or a nutritionist if you really feel like it’s just a choice-making issue you’re having. You have rocked your weight loss this far, and you should be proud and feel confident that you can keep up the healthy lifestyle. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

As stupid, useless and annoying as this is about to sound – don’t think about eating food too much.  I have the same problem and the more I stress about not eating the more I eat  lol.  Also, drink water when you think you’re hungry.  I also try to keep healthy snacks around like carrots and stuff.  Snack before you go out to eat and drink water before you go out to eat and you will eat less when you go out.  I also keep small sweets around like tootsie rolls and stuff because I NEED my sweets hehe.  Don’t put too much pressure on yourself, habits take a LONG time to break.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I’m the same way! here’s what i did: every time you think about food, do something else.  Like…get up and walk around a little or read your email or weddingbee.  if you can find one thing to do each time, you can train your brain to think about something else, if that makes any sense.  

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

CruiseWedding2010: I’m not in quite the same position, but my weight as an adult has fluctuated by 30 pounds, and I can certainly tell the difference.  I’d say to not buy the things that tempt you, first of all, so you can’t go that wrong.  Then really try to center in on what you’re craving, and satisfy that but only that.  For instance, if all you want in the world is dip, then don’t dip crackers, but instead dip veggies.  That way, you’re satisfying your dip craving without an extra ton of calories in crackers.  Likewise with chocolate – have a 120 cal chocolate bar, and savor it, but don’t eat several brownies or cookies that add up to more.  I’d also recommend displaying motivation – a skinny pic of you on your honeymoon, a locale you want to visit in a bikini, etc.

Also drink lots of water, be active, and ultimately forgive yourself when you slip.  You will slip, but don’t wallow by eating an entire box of cookies.  Accept that you slipped, and get back on track.  You know what it’s like to be healthy and unhealthy, so you just have to keep reminding yourself of your goals.

Good luck!  I know it’s hard, but feeling good about yourself is totally worth it.  That said, don’t kill yourself – you’re allowed a piece of chocolate once in a while.  Just try to live the best life you can.

 

ETA – by the way, I’ve been to OA meetings (for a class I was taking), and they were hugely motivational and supportive.  I’m sure it varies place to place, but I thought it was a really nurturing environment, so I would absolutely encourage you to check it out.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Congrats on loosing all that weight. When I think I am overindulging I try to keep all junk food out of our house, and replace it with baby carrots. Also, I make sure when I eat out I get a salad only, and maybe munch a couple bites off of FI’s plate. I also keep myself busy busy busy, so I really don’t have time to think of food. Fiance and I have been hiking lately, that helps keep me busy, and it is a workout also. I am not sure if any of this will help you, it is just what I do and it works for me.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@CruiseWedding2010…..

You have taken what I go through all the time and explained it to a t! I’m seriously exactly like  this. I’m not even hungry 5 minutes before I leave work to come home but as soon as I walk in the door I’m thinking of what food I can snack on before dinner. One snack leads to another and I’m stuffed when I wasn’t even hungry in the first place! I’m automatically guilty right after I finish eating and I stress and say I’ll do better the next day and so on. I have been wanting to lose only 10 or so pounds forever now and I just can’t seem to do it! One minute I know what I need to do, the next I give up and eat EVERYTHING in sight because It’s like I’m giving up for those few minutes….UGH! I know what you mean, it totally sucks and I guess we just have to be strong and fight through it because we KNOW what we have to do!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@CruiseWedding2010: I understand that it’s really hard, and I’m sure I don’t completely get it.  But I have had cravings to just eat and eat, and fill myself, so I’m extrapolating.  I think you’re already handling it well – you’ve lost weight you understand your triggers, etc.  When I’m feeling insatiable, I try to coerce Fiance into going for a walk or out for a drink.  A 100 cal glass of wine is far less than whatever I could stuff myself with at home, so it’s still worth it, and it gets my mind off things.  Also not having much snack food on hand, i.e. having food you need to cook, might slow you down.

Ultimately it’s a really tough position you’re in, and I wish you the best of luck.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@CruiseWedding2010: I think it’s important to understand that compulsive eating really has very little to do with food. It’s often much more related to specific (and important) emotional needs that are getting filled with food. That’s why dieting can exacerbate the problem, because it creates a cycle where you use food as an emotional crutch and then berate yourself for “succumbing” or not having more “will power,” which in turn creates more stress/frustration/self loating, which turns into yet more compulsive eating. 

Have you read any of the books by Geneen Roth? You should check her out. With compulsions, as you note, it isn’t about the taste of the food, or even about will power. Roth gets into the roots of unhealthy relationships with food. This can be a much more difficult, painful process than going on and off diets, but in my opinion, it’s the only way to truly address the issues behind compulsive eating. A good book to start with is When You Eat at the Refrigerator, Pull Up a Chair (I know, title’s kinda cheesy, but it really is a great book. Even if it is found in the *dreaded* self-help section of the bookstore, LOL.)

And in all of this, do try to be kind to yourself. Women are so hard on themselves. Imagine how different things would be if you were able to show yourself the same compassion and kindness that your husband extends to you! It’s easy to get trapped in a cycle of binging and self-loathing, but often what we really need is to show ourselves some compassion. If you can afford therapy, that would be a great way of unpacking the emotions behind the compulsive eating.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Overeaters Anonymous will certainly not look down on you. You should certainly give them a try. My Future Mother-In-Law is a big-time activist/member so I’ve been around her group…they’re lovely and accepting people.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

One other hint I’ve heard is that when you feel like eating when you don’t need to: go paint your nails. If you have some nice colors on and they’re wet, you won’t want to ruin them by trying to eat. (Plus, you could get it on your face or in your mouth, and it tastes horrid!). I think that distracting yourself with other tasks, or even just leaving for a walk with a bottle of water will help cravings/desire to eat pass after 15-20 minutes. 

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