Post # 1
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468 posts
Helper bee
So I’m super excited to be getting married in November. Everything has gone smoothly, things are getting done, I’ve lost weight and gotten in shape but… For some reason, I have fallen into depression. I absolutely despise my job. I’m treated like a 5 year old. When I first started the job, I was told that I could continue to pursue my degree. Well a year later, I’ve been told to choose between my job and school despite what was initially agreed upon. of course I had to choose my job. But I have been so depressed. the job I have now was only supposed to be something to get me through the rest of school until I had my degree to get the job I’ve wanted my whole life. And I feel like it’s been totally taken away from me. My fiancé is trying hard to comfort me and be supportive but I know it isn’t easy to deal with someone who is depressed. I don’t want to go on medication because I feel like it’s a phase but sometimes it’s really bad. I just want to be happy with my job. I’m lucky to have a job but when I’m constantly being reprimanded everyday for things that aren’t my fault, it gets very irritating. Anyone gone through this?
Post # 3
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1555 posts
Bumble bee
@dreamer1288: I feel the same way with the job that I have now. But like you said in your post, I have to just remind myself that I’m lucky to have a job because there are so many people that don’t have one. Have you been looking for other jobs? It couldn’t hurt to start exploring other options. Also, was the initial agreement written down, on a job offer or anything like that? It’s messed up that they’re going back on what they said they would do. Keep your head up!
Post # 4
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468 posts
Helper bee
@roweboat: I have been searching for a job for a couple months but haven’t had any interviews. And unfortunately, no, there wasn’t anything on paper that says I can go to school. I just had my manager’s word. I am applying for a job tomorrow so I’m saying lots of prayers! I was going to wait to find a job because I didn’t want to get a job now and then have to take a week off for the honeymoon right away buto my fiancé said he’d be more than happy to help move the honeymoon to a later date. He knows I’m really unhappy. I hope you have luck finding a different job or your current job gets better!!
Post # 5
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745 posts
Busy bee
@dreamer1288: Man, that sucks. Here’s my advice: quit that job. No job is worth you considering taking medication. That’s ridiculous.
Find something else, even minimum wage, so you can stay in school to get your dream job. It’s just not worth it to throw away your dreams!
There are minimum wage jobs out there if you look for them, if you need something while in school if your current place won’t let you go to school…as an example, for awhile I worked as a housekeeper in a hospital while I paid down some debts right after undergrad. I cleaned things that would make your hair stand on end..not the best job I ever worked but when I quit that job, I was free from credit card debt. Best feeling in the world.
Post # 6
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190 posts
Blushing bee
@DaisyBelle: I second that! If any job is causing you to seek psychiatric treatment, then you have to let it go. You get one body, and if something happened to you today, that company would still be in business tomorrow, trust me. So, take care of yourself first. Also, are you able to take online courses until you find a company that treats you better?
Post # 7
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166 posts
Blushing bee
I was in the same situation with my last job. So unhappy, migraines all the time, depressed, stressed at home, it was causing me to be irritable to my kids and boyfriend. I lined up a part time job, enrolled in classes and quit. There were times over the past year and a half that we’ve been really tight money wise, but i’ve never regretted leaving there. Nothing is worth your mental and physical health.
Post # 8
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1219 posts
Bumble bee
@AngE0522: Excellent! Good for you! I wish my daughter would do the exact same thing.
Btw, I have been unemployed for 2 1/2 years after working at the same company for 23 yrs. I’m middle aged, no degree, no spouse. Now no health insurance, no life insurance. They took away more than my job and I don’t expect I’ll ever get back to where I was financially. I’ve sent in a hundred apps with only one interview. Nobody wants old people when they can get young ones.
Maybe I need to be medicated.
Post # 9
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468 posts
Helper bee
Yeah, I would love to just quit but I have bills that my fiance can’t handle on his own. Once I do get another job offer, I’ll be out of here in a heartbeat. Just very discouraged at the moment. No interviews, no offers..
@DaisyBelle:
@chocolatejazz:
@AngE0522:
@pinkksnow:
Post # 10
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166 posts
Blushing bee
@dreamer1288: I can completely understand that. I put in applications all summer for another part-time job and its been horrible. I am an RN with 4yrs experience in critical care, I couldnt get anything! I probably applied for 30+ positions and nothing until a couple weeks ago. After 4 months I finally got another job. Its hard out here. Good luck to you, hang in there.
Post # 11
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298 posts
Helper bee
- Wedding: September 2014 - White Point Garden, Charleston, SC
I can kind of relate. While I didn’t have to choose between school and a job, I finished school in 2010 and still can’t find a job. I work at Starbucks right now, which can’t pay the bills. I don’t have much advice, but if you want to talk you can always message me.