(Closed) I'm a horrible, bad person

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 167
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1030 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Just saying that I hope you are doing okay and reach out to the supports around you about trying to do what is best for you. I know its hard when you feel so shitty, but take care of yourself and love yourself. *hugs* 

Post # 168
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9947 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

TO

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@strawbs:  I got that part, but it really isn’t that difficult to read the OP… and then click on the last page of the thread to see what is the current feelings being expressed by others…

When you click reply… your post ends up there anyhow…

 

Post # 169
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916 posts
Busy bee

Still no word from the OP… Hmmm… *worried*

Post # 170
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502 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am so angry on your behalf!  It’s not the size of the ring that would bother me or the money spent, generally, but his reasoning for getting a 1/4 carat in the style you explicitly said you didn’t like.  He’s not valuing your desires, and considers something important to you “unimportant.”  He didn’t say “I’d rather take you ona fabulous honeymoon” or “I’d rather not spend this money on the engagement ring but on our lives together” or anything like that, he was condescending.  How insulting!  As if his golf clubs weren’t frivilous or luxury items!  How dare he judge?

I’d tell him to take it back if it’s so unimportant and find myself single.  You matter.  You have value. Your desires are not silly or unimportant – they matter.  What makes you happy matters.  Stop punishing yourself for feeling disappointed that he devalued your thoughts and desires.  You’re not disappointed in the ring choice itself, you’re disappointed in his lack of regard for your feelings, your opinions, and your worth.  That’s not something stupid.  You are too sweet, please stop punshing yourself for having an appropriate reaction to a disrespectful act!

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