(Closed) I’m a horrible person for even considering this.

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

U’ll be fine, Just think more presents!

Post # 4
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Helper bee

They’re doing it because they love you and who knows, maybe it will be fun?

Eek it might be too late now to back out.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

it might be too late you cancel. If you really don’t want to, I’d call up and casually ask how much as been done or “are we still on for the shower labor day weekend?” If she gets going about all the things planned, then just don’t say anything. If she hasn’t done much, maybe you can suggest canceling. 

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

My shower was the day before my wedding!  You’ll be fine – don’t stress and just go and have a good time!

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I think your aunts are very sweet for wanting to give you a shower, and you already said yes, so I would leave it alone. You can relax after the wedding and/or take a few days before the wedding to relax. It doesn’t have to be a weekend.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

I’m thinking that it’s too late for you to cancel. It might be fun…and they’re trying to do it b/c they obviously love you and want to honor you. Try to take it in stride and as a really nice gesture on their part. Will you still have Sunday to relax?

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I would go. To be honest when it is all over and done with you miss all the time you put into the wedding and all those things that may annoy you now or you feel exhausted believe me you will miss it I promise! I have a feeling you will regret not going once everything is said and done. Go have a blast…

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper

When it’s all over, you’ll be happy you let them do it for you because it will make them happy!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think it’s probably too late!  But just remember – all you have to do is show up, eat some yummy food, open some presents, maybe play a few games, and then go home.  Yes – it would be nice to have the day to relax but you don’t have any part in planning this thing, so it really isn’t more work for you!  They are doing it because they love you, so go and enjoy it!  You will have forever to relax from wedding planning as soon as the wedding is done – and that will come so fast! 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think at this point you have no choice but to let them have their fun, and make the best of it. I know it must be a little frustrating and overwhelming, but sometimes you just have to grin and bear it 🙂

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Oh how I know this feeling, but you’re too far in to back out now. Just try to think positively about it. His aunt is trying to welcome you to the family and do something nice for you. Even though you’re worn out and have a lot going on, try to think of it as relaxing and fun and be positive.

And if all else fails, remember it’s only a few hours and then you can have the evening to yourself. 😉

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I hear you–I’m getting married the same weekend and really want time to myself that I don’t have! Still, I think it may be too late to back out at this point. They probably have started planning and may even have invited people…and maybe you can keep that evening free to just relax and not think about the wedding at all!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i would go – to put it in perspective, at least you are getting a shower. im not *pout*

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

At least it’s a long weekend and you’ll still have an extra day to relax or run errands.  Also who knows, you may actually enjoy it. I wasn’t too enthusiastic about the shower my Mother-In-Law threw for me but it ended up being really fun.

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