(Closed) I'm a HR Director- Ask me anything!

posted 7 years ago in Career
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@Penelopeee:  The background are this:  I am in a situation where I sort of report to two people – let’s call them D and M.  D signs my timesheet and does my reviews, but both of them give me work to do and technically D and I both report to M, who is the head of our department.  Several people in our very small department (10 people or so) have had major problems with M over the past couple of years, and some have gone to HR about it.  I have worked for M for almost 15 years, and D for 6 (D was new to our company at that time).  I had never had an issue with M before, but he has become increasingly difficult to work with/for, his communication (which was never great) has become downright terrible, he continues to tell me things that will happen that never do, he reassigns work to different people and expects me to do follow-up that I had no idea I should do, then blames me for not reading his mind, etc.

I know this just sounds like normal pain-in-the-ass boss stuff, but it’s so weird that I’ve known him for so long, and he’s just begun to act like this.  And I know it’s not just me, since several friends in my department have confided their frustrations about him to me.  D (who I trust and respect immensely, and who is very sensible) wants me to speak to HR about M.

Here is the problem.  K is our new Director of HR.  She’s only been here for a few months, so doesn’t really know much about the culture of our company yet, or much about the people who work here.  L is her boss, and is the VP of the company (newly promoted, about the same time K was hired).  L comes across as very nice, very friendly and congenial.  Anyone who’s worked here for a few years though, realizes that he’s a snake, and can’t be trusted at ALL.  Most of us do our best to just nod and smile and avoid him at all costs.  If he decides he wants you gone, he’ll find a way for your position to be eliminated.

I am wondering if I should talk to K about my issues with M (which I know a few others have already done).  My fear is that she will talk about it with her boss L to get advice, since M is a Director and L and M have both worked here forever and are good friends and colleagues.  I absolutely will not talk to K if that is the case, so my question for you is if I can expect confidentiality if I talk to K.  Is there some kind of ethical obligation (I figure there’s probably not a legal one) that requires HR to not discuss my issues with others in the company?

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