I'm a live-alone, (67f) proposed to my long-distance bf and he said no!!! :(

posted 3 years ago in Proposals
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Wtf did I just read? 

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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

Yeah hate to break it to you but you haven’t been dating for 5 years. 

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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Assuming this isn’t fake:

Why don’t you move to Arizona to be with him?  Also, you shouldn’t have to coerce someone into agreeing to marry you.  This clearly isn’t a healthy relationship.

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Doesn’t moving states mess up his social security and yours? 

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Busy bee

“tried applying a steady stream of coersion tactics”

ew why. 

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

How can people have great internet sex? 

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2021 - Dracut, Massachusetts

loverweddings :  LOL right?! I needed a good laugh this morning…

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Honey Beekeeper

Assuming you are real because all things are possible.

You can’t.

Why don’t you focus on your own life? Seek help for your mental health issues through social service agencies. Reality is, being fired from one job does not have to force someone into retirement. Plenty of older people continue to work. And retired gas pumpers living with their children in another state probably don’t make the best of partners. 

Have you ever actually been together in person? Regardless, he’s made his feelings quite clear. Move on. 

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

marywking : 

I got qestions…Assuming this is actually real… 

1. Having internet sex with someone for 5 years in not a long term relationship, did you guys ever meet in real life and spent any significant time together?

2. Are you willing to move to Arizona? Since he can’t move to (wherever you are) I hear the dry heat is really good. (But I am not from the US so idk how the whole pension thing works there if you move states)

3. Asking a man to marry you is usually bad enough (they dont like it!), but coersing him? Really? Would you like if he coearsed you into marrying him?

If I were you… I would focus on finding an elderly widower who has done better with his money than you(not necessarily rich, just better)… I mean i am not pro marying someone for money… but in your case it’s a survival thing not a greediness thing. You take care of him for the rest of his life and he leaves you a little something. Hopefully you guys enjoy each others company or maby even fall in love in the process. Oh and the less kids he has the better. 

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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

Based on the content and how this thread is written I am having a hard time belieiving this is real. However if it is, why don’t you move to Arizona?  

The thing is, when people are in the later stage of their life they have already built a life, a home and routine.  It is a lot to expect someone to give up all of this.  However if being together is important then maybe you will need to make the move.  You may also need to come to terms that your long distance SO is not interested in marriage.

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Okay, I’ll play along.  Assuming this is real, you do realize that if you re-marry, you’ll lose the Social Security you’re getting from your late husband, right?

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