Post # 1
So my awesome friend who has been engaged for a long time finally announced her wedding date-July 1st 2012! (My wedding is Aug 2012) I am so happy for her and want her to have a fantastic day! I have caught myself already (as I am in my own planning mode) trying to plan her wedding…lol…plus, the Maid/Matron of Honor is supposed to be there to help the bride calm down except the two of us keep having panic modes about dresses to everything else…lol we need help!
I knew this may be coming, so I have completed most of my planning and just have a few odds and ends to wrap up but thnigs that can be done in July. This way, I can free up my focus on her…and not me.
So ladies, has anyone been through this before and any pointers for me? I want to be the best Maid/Matron of Honor for her and I am nervous I will screw things up.
Post # 3
Just be her friend! Just because you’re her Maid/Matron of Honor doesn’t mean you have to plan her wedding- plus- she probably doesn’t want you to plan it. If she wants a shower and bachelorette party then you can plan those- but that will only take a couple of weeks to plan.
You both can lean on eachother & vent, laugh, cry, etc together when needed. How awesome you get to share all this with your best friend!
Post # 4
I was Maid/Matron of Honor in a wedding the week before my own! It was fine – neither one of us were bridezillas and were pretty calm about things. I remember her calling me a couple of days before the wedding saying she wanted to cancel everything because she was getting cold feet and after several hours on the phone, I was able to get her to calm down. She did get married and for years thanked me for just being there for her.
I agree – just because you’re the Maid/Matron of Honor doesn’t give you free reign to do everything.
Post # 5
I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man for a friend in May, then for a friend in June, then my wedding was Sept 3…. My goal was to be there for each of them as much as possible. I made sure not to talk about my wedding too much – if they asked, then of course… But if not, then I kept the focus on them and their wedding 🙂
One of those girls was a Bridesmaid or Best Man for me… The other one wasn’t simply because we had a small wedding (you know… Like if I had had one more Bridesmaid or Best Man etc…). Anyways, when it came time for my wedding, they both were all in for me too… I think we really found the balance for each other 🙂
Post # 6
@alicia1745: Thanks, Alicia! I am just trying to separate her wedding from mine and we are going through this together but I also want her to have her own experience. We are going dress shopping soon so very excited about that! Thanks!
Post # 7
@Jenlon: Thanks so much! 🙂 I am happy to hear that things worked out and that ‘s what I needed to hear, that this is workable. 🙂