(Closed) I'm a newBEE…Hello!

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Welcome to the Hive! Nice to meet you.

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Busy bee

@cupcake920:  Your screen name makes me hunrgy πŸ™‚

Welcome to the BEE!!!

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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Welcome to the Hive. Here you will find a lot of ladies who have been where your at. Fingers crossed for you that it comes soon for you.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

welcome! thanks for sharing, there are lots of ladies who will give you company in waiting!

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Blushing bee

@cupcake920:  Welcome to the Hive! So nice to meet you…You have come to the right place! We will all be here for you while you wait :] Good luck!

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Newbee

Welcome to the hive! I am so glad that you are here! I am a Wannabee as well, and hope that you find truly inspiring and wonderful things here!!

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Hi Cupcake,

I’m a newbee as well … and did the opposite of you LOL didn’t even introduce myself just started posting … I guess that’s part due to me having known about the site for a while now  but for whatever reason  never became a member and participated in any post…. Well I’m here now and feeling just like you

I designed my ring in this case and I know exactly what I’m getting haven’t seen the finished product and not keeping quiet about when it’s going to happen!!!! LOL…. I ask EVERY day and I’m on the verge of ruining my surprise but my Boyfriend or Best Friend won’t budge and insist that I will be upset if he tells me … so I’m here waiting hoping that it will happen sometime this month or next πŸ™ …. I feel just like you anxious and going crazy so you’re not alone and trust me I started feeling weird obsessed and also desperate… I will tell you this as I mentioned in another post SO’s really do love the fact that we are super excited that we want to be engaged and married to them reassures that they are not only making the right decision about who they have chosen has their wife but also lets them know how much we love them J ( aww) …. I really want to marry the love of my life also and start a family with him :-)!!!! I CANT WAIT!!! The most amazing feeling is knowing you have found the love of your life .

 

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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@BeautyBox:  Haha I’m like you – I responded to posts too but forgot to introduce myself!

Hi cupcake, and welcome πŸ™‚ You are NOT pathetic! I was less patient than you – my fiance and I have been together for almost 3 years and got engaged a month ago. His philosophy on marriage is there’s no hurry to get hitched unless you want to have children (for some reason he’s totally cool with cohabitation but NOT with having kids out of wedlock) because two people can be commited to eachother without that “piece of paper.” While I agree that the commitment is just between the partners, I feel like marriage is a public declaration of the same sentiment and it’s important for him to be a part of my clan.

Anyway, hopefully this advice will help: since he has already said that he wants to marry you, I would recommend that you discuss it in more detail. You could propose to him! Or if you’d rather have it the traditional way, let him know that you want to marry him too, and that it’s very important to you. Be honest with him – let him know that you are trying to be patient but that the longer you wait, the more anxiety you feel. He might not understand how much it’s stressing you out, and if he loves you and is committed to you (and it certainly sounds like he is!) he won’t want you to suffer. My fiance kept talking about “WHEN we get married…” “WHEN we have kids…” etc as though it was something that would DEFINITELY happen, but some ambiguous time in the future, and I made sure he knew that I wanted us to be married too. He knew that we were going to get engaged but was in no hurry to propose because he didn’t understand how hard it was for me to wait. When I broke down and told him that it was embarrassing but the wait was making me crazy, he seemed genuinely surprised. Soon after that, he started asking me for ring preferences and we went shopping, but he didn’t buy a ring. He let things cool down for a month and then surprised me πŸ™‚

Some people say that you just have to be patient and let things run their natural course, but I believe that if you want something you need to express it! He might honestly think that you can handle the wait since you’ve spent so many years together and live as a married couple would. He won’t know how you feel and what you need unless you communicate! Good luck hun πŸ™‚

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Welcome to the Hive!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Hi Cupcake! Yay for those of us in long-term waiting stages- me & my so have been together for 7+ yrs. We approached marriage very similar to you & your SO. We talked about & knew that we wanted to get married, one day. We just talked about what we both wanted *together* in our lives & came up with a 5year plan. At the end of the 5 year plan our big goal was either marriage, or a house. I’m happy to say that next year is the end of our 5 yr plan & we have set a date- although like ya’ll we did it all backwards & I don’t have a ring or proposal yet. Some guys just need a little encouragement & nudging. For us the main reason we’ve been waiting so long is that we both had goals we wanted met before marriage (pay off debt, get his loans in good standing, financially stable)… I would say you both need to set some future goals both together & separatly & see where that leads you. It sounds like your both on the same page, someone just needs to set the wheels in motion! =)

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@cupcake920:  Welcome to the Hive! I’m with you. Every time my SO plans something romantic, I can’t help thinking ‘ooh this could be it’. But I’ve never been more sure than I am now, having accidentally come across a purchase confirmation email for THE ring. Hoping it happens on my birthday getaway later this month or on our 2 year anniversary mid-November. Either way, I feel so lucky to have found the love of my life. Good luck with the waiting game and fingers crossed your proposal comes soon.

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