(Closed) I'm a stupid bride…

posted 6 years ago in Paper
Post # 2
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Worker bee

How early is it? it might beca good thing because you will probably have people who don’t RSVP.  Our RSVP date was four weeks before the wedding, and we still had to track down close to 20 people to find out if they were coming or not.  It took us about two weeks after the RSVP date to get a hold of everyone, which was cutting it really close to when our payments and numbers were due.  If I had to do it again, I would make the RSVP date six weeks before.

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I’d let it go and let people send them in early. Then, those who haven’t, don’t contact until you are closer to the RSVP date you actually wanted. It may work out in your favor to get things in early!

 

You are stupid either. Wedding brain is a legit thing, we have all made goofs! Don’t sweat it!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

How early are we talking? our families and friends have to drive 3.5 hrs to the mtns for oura and its a small town whose cabins book up fast so we wanted to give people time and give us time to secure a caterer as there are no “wedding caterers” — the restaurant we chose needed head counts early so they can hire additional

staff to send. We sent out our invite in February for a sept wedding with an rsvp of March. 

we also didn’t know how many of our elderly members would be able to join Us with the elevation and so we invited 85, expecting 60. Too bad I purchased all of the individual stuff for 80 ppl hehe

 

dont scratch it out. Go to a craft store and buy stickers in a shade that complements the card. Have the correct date printed on them and voila. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

Yeah… how early is it?

The RSVP for my May 30th wedding was May 1st. 

Unless its like 2+ months before, I don’t see an issue. 

The only person who will care if you cross it out and change it, will be you.  Maybe you could get stickers to stick and cover the date.  Or cover the old date with washi tape and write the new one above. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think your date is fine. You want all of your RSVPs in about a month before your wedding so you can get your final numbers to your vendors (and track down anyone that isn’t coming).

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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anndck:  You are totally fine. My date is September 26 and both the professional stationary lady and my planner told me to do August 26 as rsvp to give enough time to contact those who didn’t rsvp. Deep breaths, not worth stressing over!!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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anndck:  Can you order a business card that mentions a correction for the RSVP date? You can probably get those from Vistaprint for pretty cheap.

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Send them as is.

Post # 12
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Busy bee

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anndck:  I think that’s fine. My wedding in September 26 and I made my RSVP date August 26. I need to have numbers to the caterer 3 weeks before, so this give me a week or so to track down the stragglers.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2025

Don’t worry about it!! I think that’s a totally appropriate date for RSVPs. Especially if you consider that its the summer and lots of people will be travelling and may not be at home to recieve it in a timely manner.

Post # 14
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Newbee

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anndck:  Your date is perfectly fine! People recommend it be anywhere from 2 to 6 weeks before the wedding.  You’re at about 5 weeks which is fine! Too much earlier and people may not know their plans, or they may RSVP and forget. 

Keep your date, and then you’ve got time to track down RSVP’s, while still giving people time to figure out their plans between recieving the invitation and RSVPing. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

That date seems fine to me – ours was a month before (same as amberback – May 1 for a May 30 wedding).

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