(Closed) I'm a terrible person and jealous of my brother. :(

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@TooExcited:  I think it’s perfectly reasonable to feel the way you’re feeling, but here’s a different perspective to consider: if he’s a bad person, money isn’t going to make his life better.  It may appear to in the short term, but long term, he still has consequences for his actions to deal with and demons to face.  I hate to say it, but it could actually introduce more problems into his life.  

 

On the other hand, he’s essentially been given a gift to turn his life around.  He could do really great things with that money for himself and others in society.  Maybe he turns things around and the money turns into a great thing for him and everyone around him.

 

I can’t say I wouldn’t be jealous, but maybe if you look at it from another perspective, money isn’t the ultimate problem solver or be-all, end-all.  

 

 

Post # 19
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Thats just how life is, people dont always get what they “Seem” to deserve. On the other hand he may be truly changed  and in that case we cant be the judge of what the deserves.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would feel the same way.  I bet you’re not feeling as jealous as you are feeling a sense of injustice…and that is totally justifiable.

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I second everything that is being said here. It is completely normal to feel as you are feeling. You have been through an incredible amount of trauma and your feelings are completely justified. I would recommend seeing a therapist if you haven’t already seen one to help you work through your past trauma and your feelings about your brother’s recent windfall.

Post # 22
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Bumble bee

It does suck when people who make your life hell get ‘rewarded’ for it, but I’m sure he does or will feel really terrible, money or no, while he tries to atone for everything he’s done. I’m sorry that you have to deal with an unfair situation. 

Post # 23
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Busy bee

(((hugs!))) I would feel the exact same way. 

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Rant on.  But sleep easy knowing that you’ll always appreciate the things you have because you earned them. 

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

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@TooExcited:  Oh, no. What a nasty person, situation 😐 bummer.

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Think of it this way- would you trade your life for his for $65,000? I’d be willing to bet not. But I totally get where you’re coming from.

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