- 4 years ago
So, this may not be the right board for this but I need advice. I am 27 and a virgin, my fiance is 30 and also a virgin. We share the same faith and as Christians we each made a commitement to ourselves…and then each other…to save ourselve until marriage. Needless to say as the time counts down to our wedding I am wracked with excitement and fear. I can’t wait to have sex with him and to become ONE with him but also I am afraid I will not please him or that his anxiety disorder may cause problems. So, over the last few weeks I have been trying to talk to him more openly about sex and foreplay and things that I enjoy (having learned this from self exploration). Also, I have been slowly trying to ‘up’ the level of intimacy so that sex won’t seem like such a huge leap. We hold hands, kiss, snuggle, and there is occasional “touching” but not much else. He has always been a little shy about intimacy, mostly due to his anxiety disorder, but also I think due to low self esteem. I also have low self esteem and struggle with bouts of depression. (I know we make a great pair right ) But the passion and the desire is there…I have seen it in his eyes and felt it in his touch. I am just REALLY nervous about the whole thing. I have a plan in my mind of how to map out the evening to make it as stressfree, fun, and exciting as possible. Any advice would be welcome, this particular event has got me so preocuppied I think about it ALL THE TIME.