Post # 1
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Helper bee
Help me bees. I am having a lot of trouble keeping my mouth shut. I know SO has the ring (he picked it though so I have NO idea what it will be), although he doesn’t know that I know…
Anyway I just want him to propose NOW!
Arghh, the suspense is killing me! All weekend, everytime we went out I couldn’t help but think: “is this it??” But it wasn’t….
I want it to happen before Christmas SO badly. I’m just not sure if I can restrain myself from saying something. I know he wanted me to zip it so it could be a surprise, but I just have no patience!!
Meanwhile he KEEPS saying “what do you want for Christmas?” and I swear to God, if he says it once more I am going to end up saying “you know what I want for Christmas” and it’s all going to come out…
God dammit. Why do boys do this? It’s cruel!
Just a vent really.
Arrghhhhhhhh!!
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I am in the same boat! My boyfriend told me that he would propose “well before Valentine’s Day” but I’m hoping for this weekend, or at least before Christmas (and I haven’t quite decided if that makes me desusional or not.) I know he has the ring he’s going to use, and I thought I would get a propoal on our 5 year anniversary in two weeks, but he is going to be playing video games with his friends that day instead since of course it is the only day they are all available. I have been planning our wedding in my head for TWO YEARS.
Every time he asks me what I want for Christmas, I have no idea what to say to him since getting engaged is the only thing I can think or talk about! I have started prefacing everything I say with something like “I’m sorry if this sounds crazy…” or “I know you probably aren’t interested in talking about this yet…” etc. but i can’t stop! I’ve even started making sure my nails always look perfect because I don’t know when it will happen, and as soon as it does people will be looking at my hands. It’s crazy bordering on obsessive.
Let’s just hope that we both get proposals before we have so many false alarms that we ruin it for ourselves! And it’s lucky that Weddingbee exists so that we can troll this site instead of pestering our boyfriends!
Post # 4
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Helper bee
@MeiFrancis: Good to know I’m not the only one going mad!! Haha.
I will cross my fingers that you will get a pre-Christmas proposal!! 🙂 🙂
Post # 5
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Busy bee
I’m in the same boat i found out that my BF has ordered and paid for a ring hes already asked my parents about it and all etc but its driving me nuts not knowing a timeframe of when its going to happen.. everyone says either christmas or NYE but my mum thinks u wouldnt give an engagement ring as a christmas present so i’m totally frustrated i’m an impatient person and want it to happen already but for all i know it could be months away!
My BF has also asked what do i want for xmas and he’s said that he’s bought half of my chrissie present so i don’t think he means a ring by that! They are good at torturing us and not even knowing theyre doing it!
Post # 6
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Blushing bee
I’m in the club with you guys- if my SO asks me what I want for x-mas again, I may just scream! Like really? You don’t have a CLUE what would be the bestest present? REALLY?!?
I seem to find myself chanting in my head “I love him I will not yell at him, I love him I will not yell at him…..”
I want my shiny!!!
Post # 7
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Worker bee
I love these types of posts because it reassures me that I am not alone with waiting and the manic thoughts it produces!
I found a receipt for a ring in September. The receipt had a date of August 2nd (that was the only thing I focused on because I did not want to find out the details of the ring).
My boyfriend does not know that I found the receipt, but ever since August he has been dropping major hints that he’s ready to take the next step and they he may have even have the ring.
Since November, he shut up completely with no hints at all about a proposal… even going as far as to say that he hasn’t got a ring, but he does so in a jokingly way. It’s almost like he’s looking for a crazy reaction from me because he giggles about it.
Although there is only ONE thing that I really desire from him for X-mas, I’ve been trying to give him little gift ideas. He told me yesterday “you’re only getting one thing from me for X-mas”. My boyfriend always goes all out with my X-mas gifts, so I thought it was strange that he made it clear to me that I shouldn’t expect much.
So, I’m trying not to get my hopes up but I’m thinking if that one gift is not a ring, it could be a holiday, which would STILL be wonderful! Although, I know that if I don’t receive a proposal by 2012, it will sting a lot….
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
Hang in there! Hopefully he’ll ask at Christmas!
Post # 9
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Busy bee
I’m right there with you ladies!! I’m so happy I found this board to vent! I feel like I’m going insane waiting!
Post # 10
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Blushing bee
I wonder if any of our guys really know how much they are driving us crazy! Hang in there ladies, its bound to happen 😀
Post # 11
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Helper bee
There is definitely a lot of us in the same boat!!
SO and I have a romantic date planned for Saturday and I just know that if it doesn’t happen then I’m probably going to at least hint or mention it. Alcohol will make it impossible not to!!
I have been so good. I haven’t mentioned a thing about it since he’s been home from overseas, I’ve been so good!
But then at the same time if I say something and ruin his plans I’m worried I’ll upset him and end up regretting not just zipping my trap.
Arghh 🙁
Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
It’s okay. The Bee is here for you to vent to!
Post # 13
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Helper bee
Im in the same boat as everyone else. My SO and i were talking about Christmas gifts and he jokingly said he had them at his parents house because he knew i would snoop if he had them at home. I told him i wouldn’t bother snooping bc he told me the one thing i really wanted (ering) he was NOT giving to me on a holiday. He replied..oh, heck no i cant keep it at the house, you would be snooping for sure.
Well, I have no idea if he has the ring yet or not. He wont ever give me a straight answer when the subject comes up. Its pretty frustrating, but I try really hard to focus on other stuff and figure the proposal will happen within the next 3 months, which is the only thing that keeps me sane. haha
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
My boy keeps asking too! I just told him I wanted some bling and laughed. Thankfully he laughed too!